"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Women who neglect admitting they have kids on dating sites

tryst type

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Wtf man, I think this is worse than deception through angular pics.

Happened three times now, hitting it off thinking there HAS to be a catch then non-chalantly a mention about their kids.

Now I'm not against kids and I know some guys don't mind chicks who have them but for me I prefer they don't and it ruins the attraction. Well for girls under 28 it does anyway.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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abe0

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I went out with one lady on her profile she stated she had one older kid. By the time we were finished with dinner she had told about the other three kids ...a total of 4...that were living at home. Now, I am more direct in asking about their family life and kids irrespective of what their profile might say.
Abe
 

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If she's not up front about her children in her profile then I wonder what other things she's concealing from you.
 

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Use it as a screen, have experienced this many times OLD and simply don't tolerate it any more. Out at the first whiff of it. Many of them consider 2" of height a big deal yet see no obligation to disclose children, utter hypocrisy.
 

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I don't see this as a problem at all. You can pump 'n dump such women without even the slightest pang of conscience.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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movistar

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Yea, if a woman is not owning up to the kids, she is junk
 

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Online dating is a lot like ocean trawling. You cast a wide net and get lots of catch---crabs, mollusks, decent fish, maybe a gem or two but mostly sea junk. That trawling net is your screen: you toss the garbage and keep the value.
 

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Bokanovsky said:
I don't see this as a problem at all. You can pump 'n dump such women without even the slightest pang of conscience.
Unless of course you increment her motherhood score ... :nervous:
 

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Many women will not say they have kids until they've got you involved emotionally so you dont leave them but some will say they do and give the guy a take it or leave it deal. For me personally, I will not date or get with a woman who already has children, I'm sorry but i will not raise some other man's child. When i look at the young boy/girl i want to KNOW that its MY son or daughter.
 

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If they're just looking for a casual arrangement then I can be a bit more lenient about them withholding that information - it's not all that relevant. But let's face it, they're usually deathly serious about getting into a legit relationship.

What really tuns me off is when a woman constructs her entire online persona around being a mother. Oh that's real appealing, tell me more about your children and how freakin special they are. This is supposed to stimulate romantic and sexual interest in a man??? Genius.

The place to mention your kids is in the vital stats/details, no need to bang on about it in the actual profile. I appreciate it when a woman with kids downplays the whole motherhood angle and presents herself as a more complete human being.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bokanovsky

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MatureDJ said:
Unless of course you increment her motherhood score ... :nervous:
Not an issue if you're wrapping it up (which you should always be doing in any event).
 
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