You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
So a single woman who hit the gym with good results is enough to establish a rule or break an other one?Ninja Dude said:Man some of you guys are truly cynical. YOu may want to reconsider this attitude - it is not attractive! (unless accompanied by sharp wit/humor as opposed to bitterness)
Proof that some women do improve with age: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eae3_LDysY8&feature=youtu.be
I agree. All of those women were hotter when they were younger.mrRuckus said:Um, yea, not on a single one. And it's basically demonstrated by all those women having all but vanished from movies, tv, etc.
Right, races with darker skin age better. I think I've read that it's because they have a higher oil content in their skin, keeps them moisturized.ilikecharlene said:in my experience, it depends on race. women with darker skin i find look more youthful than fair skinned women.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It's the faces, dude. By 26 or so their faces are FAR worse already than a 20 year old regardless of working out. A man actually looks better as it starts to look a bit weathered as he becomes a man. It declines eventually but before it does, it improves.020204 said:It is true that we males provided we look after ourselves probably stay verile for longer however what isn't factored in is that very few women actually workout with weights to a significant degree.
I get more compliments in my 50s than I ever got in my 20s.020204 said:I agree that we men get better, at 41 I don't have any greys and my physique is pretty tight, have notised guys who do deliberately die their hair grey often look really great and provided they aren't obese don't really loose their appeal with women. I can still think of some very hot women, in this age bracket although I will have to admit they are in the minority.
I remember a lot of girls in high school who were considered not very attractive. Then a few years later wow! Their curves came in, they learned how to fix their hair, started wearing short shorts, and all of a sudden they were smoking hotties.020204 said:I would probably say nerdy girls do get better with age, I think they are a pretty good example. The reality is that not everyone has run their race in their early 20s.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.