"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Women who complain "guys just want to get off"

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Advice from the old lady:

This, IMO, is simply the grown up version of the 14 and 15 year olds who get boyfriends all the time because they will have sex. I am teaching my teenage daughter about this phenomenon currently. She sees girls in her school who are sexually active. These girls get passed from boy to boy to boy and get used and get bad reputations. My daughter thinks it is gross (it is) and sees that these girls get labeled as sluts early. It reeks of low to no self esteem and a behavior of trying to trade sex for love (because love is lacking in the lives of those girls.)

Show me a woman who says "All men want is sex!" and I'll show you a woman with a bad attitude who has nothing more to offer than sex...and she will get used constantly because sex is a commodity and if she has nothing else to bring to the table? She's going to get sex all the time...and not much else. Men eventually drop women who can only offer sex, no matter how hot they are. Women who trade just on their looks many times do not realize that men need more substance than just sex for a relationship. And they don't set about being better people.

Now. It is patently obvious that all men want sex. Duh. But that understanding is very different that the "all men want is sex" attitude. Women with more than sex to offer know to let the man see there is more to them than just sex. And women with more to offer than sex are really the sorts of women that men are more naturally drawn to. So sex becomes a part of the whole rather than the whole thing.

Sadly the things these women say (All men want is sex...Men only care about getting off...Men are selfish...etc. etc. etc.) simply indicates that these are women who are accustomed to being used and thrown away. They broadcast it without realizing that they are broadcasting it.

And then they wonder why it is that they continue to get used for just sex...and more jaded and all that stuff. Those are your future crazy cat ladies people. You can spot them a mile away. They tell you who they are.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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My thoughts on this coalesced into one sentence... women use men as self-medication. They use sex and the mirage of connection from lovers, and validation from orbiters/providers, to medicate their anxiety, depression and self-esteem. That's pretty much it.
 
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My thoughts on this coalesced into one sentence... women use men as self-medication. They use sex and the mirage of connection from lovers, and validation from orbiters/providers, to medicate their anxiety, depression and self-esteem. That's pretty much it.
I can agree with that. They are bored stiff.
 

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Looking to get back to dating was looking at some OLD profile.
Prob wont make a real account i just see bad stuff.
So many profile are just trash its not even funny and im not talking about the pictures. I like to see how they describe themselves,all they write about demands, demands, demands. Seriously you are 35yo and stlii single i now see why.

Also full time mommy is not a job!!!!!
When i see that only thing i see is..........i have no education and no ambition and im looking for a man to pay everything for me......
 

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I usually hear it as "men are only after one thing."

But women are only after two things. Is that really that much better?
The ones that do that usually want to string men along for free attention and dates.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Reminded of this topic again.

This girl has a picture posing for her mirror where her upper body is clothed, but she's literally showing off her bare legs and ass in a thong. Simultaneously, in her profile she says she's "really not interested in sex or anyone that immediately hits on me". And this isn't some 16 year old kid with snapchat filters in every picture, she's 26 without any filters or spelling errors or whatever at all.

What the fvck is this?
 
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Reminded of this topic again.

This girl has a picture posing for her mirror where her upper body is clothed, but she's literally showing off her bare legs and ass in a thong. Simultaneously, in her profile she says she's "really not interested in sex or anyone that immediately hits on me". And this isn't some 16 year old kid with snapchat filters in every picture, she's 26 without any filters or spelling errors or whatever at all.

What the fvck is this?
A comic strip?
 

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This is an example of how being logically correct is not productive. You are right; she is ridiculous. But there is nothing that can be done about it. Women, and people in general, say stupid sh!t all the time. You can't fix these people by calling them out on their behavior. Nothing will change.
 

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This is an example of how being logically correct is not productive. You are right; she is ridiculous. But there is nothing that can be done about it. Women, and people in general, say stupid sh!t all the time. You can't fix these people by calling them out on their behavior. Nothing will change.
I agree BB, I don't expect anyone to be logical. I am just interested in why she does this, and what's going on in her head when she does it?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Write her and ask her... does this mean you are a good good girl and have less than two partners. After all, I wouldn’t want to risk myself with a natural born Slvt. “
Lol
 

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"Dear men of the world, please stop using me as your cvm dumpster...unless I am in the mood."
Sounds remarkably true as a descriptor for women in general, haha...
 

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Ok here is the thing with women. The act on emotion so when they are posting these pictures they are looking for validation but they are on this constant back and forth push pull in their mind complaining that men are only wanting to get off. In reality, they don't want men they are not attracted to get off. However, the men they see as attractive they want them to objectify them. Posting pictures online is a fair game that they don't see. If a 6 figure or a millionaire are into them, the objectifying is good. A normal guy who has low SMV is how dare you.
 

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The thread title makes me get the song stuck in my head, Girls Just Wanna Have Fun, except the words are "Guys just want to get off."
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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