Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What exactly do you say? Are you coming right up and asking them for their number, what setting are you in (Bar, Club, Library)?Brian Griffin said:I\\\'ve approached a lot of women, and the response I usually get is something of \\\"Sorry, I don\\\'t give my numbers out to players.\\\" Another one said \\\"How many girls number have you asked for today?\\\" They somehow know.
Is there a way to avoid this?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Again, finally someone that subscribes to the way I play the game... # = uselessStop asking for numbers.
No, seriously. Your goal isn't to collect phone numbers, it's to fvck (either a GF or lots of women, doesn't matter). Instead of chatting for 2 minutes and asking for a phone number, attract her, build rapport, and set up a "date" on the spot. A phone number is just a way to get in contact - it's totally unnecessary to seduction. Of course this is over simplified, but it's something you should look into more.