"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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squirrels

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I've noticed a bunch of women showing up on the discussion forums lately.

While I don't have any objection to this, it's not always apparent right away what gender someone is, especially to people who haven't been here a while.

Sometimes they have good input, but as in real life, sometimes women say things that don't reflect how they REALLY feel or what they do in real life. In other words, the nicest way I can say this is that some of the female posters' info/advice is 'suspect'.

Is there some way we could have an indicator of gender as part of the user information displayed with each post, just so we have an idea where info/advice is coming from?

Not trying to p*ss anyone off. Just a thought. :)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Hehe, um, Squirrels...Check about two-three threads down man. :D
 

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Sometimes they have good input, but as in real life, sometimes women say things that don't reflect how they REALLY feel or what they do in real life. In other words, the nicest way I can say this is that some of the female posters' info/advice is 'suspect'.

Is there some way we could have an indicator of gender as part of the user information displayed with each post, just so we have an idea where info/advice is coming from?
As a female poster, I understand if my advice is taken with a grain of salt. I would feel the same way about a guy posting over on an all-female forum. You don't have to believe me, but I really have no reason to **** with you guys...

I've been told by a lot of my female friends that I am too much like a guy when it comes to sex and dating and I've been told by some of my male friends how cool it is that I'm not fake and *****y like other girls. Not sure how true either of those statements are. :confused: But basically I think it's wack some of the **** that girls pull on guys... I mean, so is the **** you guys pull on girls, but it's different the **** guys pull. I guess my friends have a point, because I am more likely to be pulling some reverse DJ moves than the games girls play with guys.

So I don't know how accurate my advice would be necessarily, but I'm definitely coming from a place of honesty. Although, you have no reason to believe that I guess.
 

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Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
I guess my friends have a point, because I am more likely to be pulling some reverse DJ moves than the games girls play with guys.
oh yeah, theres nothing more of a turn-on then a girl becoming a man when you are trying to pick her up.

i can barely keep it down just thinking about it.... oh...baby....

:rolleyes:

:D
 

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Originally posted by oreo_renegade
oh yeah, theres nothing more of a turn-on then a girl becoming a man when you are trying to pick her up.

i can barely keep it down just thinking about it.... oh...baby....

:rolleyes:

:D
ha ha ha... First of all, I don't "become" a man, LOL, second of all, it's not when a guy is trying to pick me up necessarily. I just don't always fall for some of the BS guys pull that a lot of other girls just eat up. I know this probably goes against the whole DJ-code but guys can be real with me because I recognize the game.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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yes and can we do SOMETHING about flaming people purely on the basis of gender. It's childish, shows a lack of balls.
 

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Originally posted by ShortyBrown
yes and can we do SOMETHING about flaming people purely on the basis of gender. It's childish, shows a lack of balls.
I agree. I miss the old days when nobody started crying if women posted on the forums (well, not as much as nowdays anyway). Even though I still wouldn't take dating advice from most women, I find it amuzing how the new generation of DJ's seem to believe that you have to hate and bash women in order to become a DJ...

:rolleyes:

BTW, before the entire new newbie generation of summer '03 comes flaming me (again); let it be known once and for all that I am a male, and I don't have to read the Bible because I've already read it several times over these about 2 years when the DJ Bible has existed.
 

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Originally posted by ShortyBrown
yes and can we do SOMETHING about flaming people purely on the basis of gender. It's childish, shows a lack of balls.
I'm not FLAMING anyone. I have no problem with women posting on the forums. I'd just prefer to know, that's all. :)
 

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uhm I don't think she ment you, squirrels... and btw I agree with you too, I think it would be great if there would be a gender indication, so we would know who we were talking to.
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
I'm not FLAMING anyone. I have no problem with women posting on the forums. I'd just prefer to know, that's all. :)
no Anson is right, I did not mean you. :D I think you are a witty, insightful person.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Helter Skelter
Okay,
I've been on this board for a while, can somebody tell me who btw is?
ha ha ha ha ha ha Helter Skelter you crack me up!!!!!!
 

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Originally posted by Helter Skelter
Okay,
I've been on this board for a while, can somebody tell me who btw is?
Btw is a famous DJ known also as the "by the way" :p
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
I'm not FLAMING anyone. I have no problem with women posting on the forums. I'd just prefer to know, that's all. :)
I think somebody's just afraid of getting hit for flirting with a guy.


:D
 

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Originally posted by ShortyBrown
yes and can we do SOMETHING about flaming people purely on the basis of gender. It's childish, shows a lack of balls.
yea that says a lot espically coming from a girl
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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