"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've noticed a bunch of women showing up on the discussion forums lately.

While I don't have any objection to this, it's not always apparent right away what gender someone is, especially to people who haven't been here a while.

Sometimes they have good input, but as in real life, sometimes women say things that don't reflect how they REALLY feel or what they do in real life. In other words, the nicest way I can say this is that some of the female posters' info/advice is 'suspect'.

Is there some way we could have an indicator of gender as part of the user information displayed with each post, just so we have an idea where info/advice is coming from?

Not trying to p*ss anyone off. Just a thought. :)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hehe, um, Squirrels...Check about two-three threads down man. :D
 

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Sometimes they have good input, but as in real life, sometimes women say things that don't reflect how they REALLY feel or what they do in real life. In other words, the nicest way I can say this is that some of the female posters' info/advice is 'suspect'.

Is there some way we could have an indicator of gender as part of the user information displayed with each post, just so we have an idea where info/advice is coming from?
As a female poster, I understand if my advice is taken with a grain of salt. I would feel the same way about a guy posting over on an all-female forum. You don't have to believe me, but I really have no reason to **** with you guys...

I've been told by a lot of my female friends that I am too much like a guy when it comes to sex and dating and I've been told by some of my male friends how cool it is that I'm not fake and *****y like other girls. Not sure how true either of those statements are. :confused: But basically I think it's wack some of the **** that girls pull on guys... I mean, so is the **** you guys pull on girls, but it's different the **** guys pull. I guess my friends have a point, because I am more likely to be pulling some reverse DJ moves than the games girls play with guys.

So I don't know how accurate my advice would be necessarily, but I'm definitely coming from a place of honesty. Although, you have no reason to believe that I guess.
 

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Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
I guess my friends have a point, because I am more likely to be pulling some reverse DJ moves than the games girls play with guys.
oh yeah, theres nothing more of a turn-on then a girl becoming a man when you are trying to pick her up.

i can barely keep it down just thinking about it.... oh...baby....

:rolleyes:

:D
 

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Originally posted by oreo_renegade
oh yeah, theres nothing more of a turn-on then a girl becoming a man when you are trying to pick her up.

i can barely keep it down just thinking about it.... oh...baby....

:rolleyes:

:D
ha ha ha... First of all, I don't "become" a man, LOL, second of all, it's not when a guy is trying to pick me up necessarily. I just don't always fall for some of the BS guys pull that a lot of other girls just eat up. I know this probably goes against the whole DJ-code but guys can be real with me because I recognize the game.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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yes and can we do SOMETHING about flaming people purely on the basis of gender. It's childish, shows a lack of balls.
 

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Originally posted by ShortyBrown
yes and can we do SOMETHING about flaming people purely on the basis of gender. It's childish, shows a lack of balls.
I agree. I miss the old days when nobody started crying if women posted on the forums (well, not as much as nowdays anyway). Even though I still wouldn't take dating advice from most women, I find it amuzing how the new generation of DJ's seem to believe that you have to hate and bash women in order to become a DJ...

:rolleyes:

BTW, before the entire new newbie generation of summer '03 comes flaming me (again); let it be known once and for all that I am a male, and I don't have to read the Bible because I've already read it several times over these about 2 years when the DJ Bible has existed.
 

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Originally posted by ShortyBrown
yes and can we do SOMETHING about flaming people purely on the basis of gender. It's childish, shows a lack of balls.
I'm not FLAMING anyone. I have no problem with women posting on the forums. I'd just prefer to know, that's all. :)
 

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uhm I don't think she ment you, squirrels... and btw I agree with you too, I think it would be great if there would be a gender indication, so we would know who we were talking to.
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
I'm not FLAMING anyone. I have no problem with women posting on the forums. I'd just prefer to know, that's all. :)
no Anson is right, I did not mean you. :D I think you are a witty, insightful person.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by Helter Skelter
Okay,
I've been on this board for a while, can somebody tell me who btw is?
ha ha ha ha ha ha Helter Skelter you crack me up!!!!!!
 

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Originally posted by Helter Skelter
Okay,
I've been on this board for a while, can somebody tell me who btw is?
Btw is a famous DJ known also as the "by the way" :p
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
I'm not FLAMING anyone. I have no problem with women posting on the forums. I'd just prefer to know, that's all. :)
I think somebody's just afraid of getting hit for flirting with a guy.


:D
 

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Originally posted by ShortyBrown
yes and can we do SOMETHING about flaming people purely on the basis of gender. It's childish, shows a lack of balls.
yea that says a lot espically coming from a girl
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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