"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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squirrels

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I've noticed a bunch of women showing up on the discussion forums lately.

While I don't have any objection to this, it's not always apparent right away what gender someone is, especially to people who haven't been here a while.

Sometimes they have good input, but as in real life, sometimes women say things that don't reflect how they REALLY feel or what they do in real life. In other words, the nicest way I can say this is that some of the female posters' info/advice is 'suspect'.

Is there some way we could have an indicator of gender as part of the user information displayed with each post, just so we have an idea where info/advice is coming from?

Not trying to p*ss anyone off. Just a thought. :)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hehe, um, Squirrels...Check about two-three threads down man. :D
 

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Sometimes they have good input, but as in real life, sometimes women say things that don't reflect how they REALLY feel or what they do in real life. In other words, the nicest way I can say this is that some of the female posters' info/advice is 'suspect'.

Is there some way we could have an indicator of gender as part of the user information displayed with each post, just so we have an idea where info/advice is coming from?
As a female poster, I understand if my advice is taken with a grain of salt. I would feel the same way about a guy posting over on an all-female forum. You don't have to believe me, but I really have no reason to **** with you guys...

I've been told by a lot of my female friends that I am too much like a guy when it comes to sex and dating and I've been told by some of my male friends how cool it is that I'm not fake and *****y like other girls. Not sure how true either of those statements are. :confused: But basically I think it's wack some of the **** that girls pull on guys... I mean, so is the **** you guys pull on girls, but it's different the **** guys pull. I guess my friends have a point, because I am more likely to be pulling some reverse DJ moves than the games girls play with guys.

So I don't know how accurate my advice would be necessarily, but I'm definitely coming from a place of honesty. Although, you have no reason to believe that I guess.
 

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Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
I guess my friends have a point, because I am more likely to be pulling some reverse DJ moves than the games girls play with guys.
oh yeah, theres nothing more of a turn-on then a girl becoming a man when you are trying to pick her up.

i can barely keep it down just thinking about it.... oh...baby....

:rolleyes:

:D
 

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Originally posted by oreo_renegade
oh yeah, theres nothing more of a turn-on then a girl becoming a man when you are trying to pick her up.

i can barely keep it down just thinking about it.... oh...baby....

:rolleyes:

:D
ha ha ha... First of all, I don't "become" a man, LOL, second of all, it's not when a guy is trying to pick me up necessarily. I just don't always fall for some of the BS guys pull that a lot of other girls just eat up. I know this probably goes against the whole DJ-code but guys can be real with me because I recognize the game.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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yes and can we do SOMETHING about flaming people purely on the basis of gender. It's childish, shows a lack of balls.
 

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Originally posted by ShortyBrown
yes and can we do SOMETHING about flaming people purely on the basis of gender. It's childish, shows a lack of balls.
I agree. I miss the old days when nobody started crying if women posted on the forums (well, not as much as nowdays anyway). Even though I still wouldn't take dating advice from most women, I find it amuzing how the new generation of DJ's seem to believe that you have to hate and bash women in order to become a DJ...

:rolleyes:

BTW, before the entire new newbie generation of summer '03 comes flaming me (again); let it be known once and for all that I am a male, and I don't have to read the Bible because I've already read it several times over these about 2 years when the DJ Bible has existed.
 

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Originally posted by ShortyBrown
yes and can we do SOMETHING about flaming people purely on the basis of gender. It's childish, shows a lack of balls.
I'm not FLAMING anyone. I have no problem with women posting on the forums. I'd just prefer to know, that's all. :)
 

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uhm I don't think she ment you, squirrels... and btw I agree with you too, I think it would be great if there would be a gender indication, so we would know who we were talking to.
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
I'm not FLAMING anyone. I have no problem with women posting on the forums. I'd just prefer to know, that's all. :)
no Anson is right, I did not mean you. :D I think you are a witty, insightful person.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Helter Skelter
Okay,
I've been on this board for a while, can somebody tell me who btw is?
ha ha ha ha ha ha Helter Skelter you crack me up!!!!!!
 

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Originally posted by Helter Skelter
Okay,
I've been on this board for a while, can somebody tell me who btw is?
Btw is a famous DJ known also as the "by the way" :p
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
I'm not FLAMING anyone. I have no problem with women posting on the forums. I'd just prefer to know, that's all. :)
I think somebody's just afraid of getting hit for flirting with a guy.


:D
 

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Originally posted by ShortyBrown
yes and can we do SOMETHING about flaming people purely on the basis of gender. It's childish, shows a lack of balls.
yea that says a lot espically coming from a girl
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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