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It may take you a few months to approach 100 girls, but a pretty girl can get more than 100 matches on OLD in just a minute.

It’s because of the massive choice girls have that we have to maximise our value and sample a large number of girls through cold approaching. As social circles get smaller and society becomes more atomised, most men simply won’t be able to experience sexual relationships at all without cold approaching.

Cold approaching women is absolutely essential if you don't want to waste your time sifting through rubbish on OLD. If you want a high conversion rate with piss poor game, you’ll have to focus on girls who are less attractive, because they will more likely be attracted to you. If you want a high conversion rate with hot girls, your value has to be sky high.
 
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Yes, women's options are astonishing. This isn't new at all.

Yes, a man has to approach strangers if he doesn't want to deal with the aggravation of swipe apps and doesn't have a viable social circle.

I'm not sure that cold approaching is the sole answer here and it doesn't change the fact that women have a lot of options. Approaching strangers is a very tough road towards getting your penis wet. Then again, so is app swiping.

You made an apples to oranges comparison in the first sentence...

Let's say a woman can get 100 actual matches or potential matches in her swipe queue in some fraction of a day. How long does it take for a man to get 100 actual matches or potential matches in his queue? That's the more accurate comparison. It will take the man longer, even a good looking man.

Let's say it would take a man a few months to do 100 real life approaches. How long would it take a woman to get approached 100 times in real life? It would depend upon how often she leaves home and how provocatively she dresses.
 

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Most men are rubbish , so this is a big ace in your hand

the problem is that men are very thirsty and have poor social skills , which in return makes the women more masculine which ruins the harmony
 

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It's funny because women being more open sexually hasn't really increased their selection pool of men...it's actually lowered it. This mainstream promiscuousness coincides with them also being more shallow, particular, and selective than ever. OLD, SM,orbiters, first world feminsim, and simps have inflated their egos and standards to the point most guys don't benefit AT ALL from women slooting around so much, openly, bc they're specific when choosing suitors.
 

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Incels, MGTOWs, and black pillers bring down the mood. It is easy to be in a bad mood as an incel. If you’re not getting laid, you’re more irritable. I’ve seen it in my own life when I’ve had droughts.
 

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Incels, MGTOWs, and black pillers bring down the mood. It is easy to be in a bad mood as an incel. If you’re not getting laid, you’re more irritable. I’ve seen it in my own life when I’ve had droughts.
Not sure how this makes me an incel, women have more choice and the solution is to improve yourself and put yourself out there by cold approaching to meet as much women as possible.

We have a problem and this is one of the most practical solutions to it.
 

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It may take you a few months to approach 100 girls, but a pretty girl can get more than 100 matches on OLD in just a minute.

It’s because of the massive choice girls have that we have to maximise our value and sample a large number of girls through cold approaching. As social circles get smaller and society becomes more atomised, most men simply won’t be able to experience sexual relationships at all without cold approaching.

Cold approaching women is absolutely essential if you don't want to waste your time sifting through rubbish on OLD. If you want a high conversion rate with piss poor game, you’ll have to focus on girls who are less attractive, because they will more likely be attracted to you. If you want a high conversion rate with hot girls, your value has to be sky high.
+1

F&f bring on a lot of hookers and escorts (aex money workers ) but it's funny. They did a segment on cold approach recently asking girls their experience and the number is a handful or less. Cold approach is a necessity in 2022 IMHO for a great sex life. Majority of men are too cowardly.

Not every girl is a stunner the same way not every guy is a Chad or Tyrone. 6+ is fair game. Cute. Above average. Odd stunner. Also young. Young ftw. No single mom's or busted old ladies.
 

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People just don't understand that they also have WORSE choices than ever before.

Women are repulsed by 90% of the men they can "choose". Either because they are nasty looking, don't take care of themselves, are weirdos or creepy af with no social skills.

Having options and having good options are completely different things. Very few women have good options. Most women end up having to settle.

They may have more options than ever before but have never had fewer good ones.

And as such, it's never been easier to stand out from all the poor options.
 

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People just don't understand that they also have WORSE choices than ever before.

Women are repulsed by 90% of the men they can "choose". Either because they are nasty looking, don't take care of themselves, are weirdos or creepy af with no social skills.

Having options and having good options are completely different things. Very few women have good options. Most women end up having to settle.

They may have more options than ever before but have never had fewer good ones.

And as such, it's never been easier to stand out from all the poor options.
Accurate. The volume of choices is so high that even 10% of a big number is still a lot of choice.

I knew a 35 year old average looking woman who didn't open her Tinder for a few weeks. She had ~1,000 in her swipe queue. She swiped through all those men and swiped right on only about 100 of them. 100 options is still a lot of options.
 

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People just don't understand that they also have WORSE choices than ever before.

Women are repulsed by 90% of the men they can "choose". Either because they are nasty looking, don't take care of themselves, are weirdos or creepy af with no social skills.

Having options and having good options are completely different things. Very few women have good options. Most women end up having to settle.

They may have more options than ever before but have never had fewer good ones.

And as such, it's never been easier to stand out from all the poor options.
What exactly do these women who have to "settle" bring to the table? Women look like jabba the hutt, have no job and expect Chris Hemsowrth to commit to them.
 

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You are dead wrong. Women always have at least equivalent to their own objective SMV, but usually greater.

The attractive women that we date have UNTOLD abundance of options. The options that my ex girlfriends had were insane. Some have self-limiting beliefs that prevent them from fully actualizing those options, like low self esteem, fear of abandonement, control issues, etc, but they are there. Once they hit the wall, yes they lose some of their options have have to settle for their own level.
depends man , even if a woman finds 10% of guys attractive , still 10% from 1 million is a sh1tload of dudes

when the count of dudes is almost infinite , it kinda is irrelevant if she likes 1% , 10% or 50% of them

and in online dating , this is actually the biggest issue . If good looking women swipe right to only 5% of dudes ( as is the average ) , that 5% actually means a lot of dudes

so that is why you have to move fast for date , otherwise for sure there will be a better guy coming in next that will take your time time slot that she initially had for you
 

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You are dead wrong. Women always have at least equivalent to their own objective SMV, but usually greater.

The attractive women that we date have UNTOLD abundance of options. The options that my ex girlfriends had were insane. Some have self-limiting beliefs that prevent them from fully actualizing those options, like low self esteem, fear of abandonement, control issues, etc, but they are there. Once they hit the wall, yes they lose some of their options have have to settle for their own level.

The Wall is not even that big of a deal for a most deal. It's more like a padded cushion. Plenty of men are thirsting for women in their 40s and 50s.
 

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The Wall is not even that big of a deal for a most deal. It's more like a padded cushion. Plenty of men are thirsting for women in their 40s and 50s.
because simps will simp and have not respect for themselves
 

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You are dead wrong. Women always have at least equivalent to their own objective SMV, but usually greater.

The attractive women that we date have UNTOLD abundance of options. The options that my ex girlfriends had were insane. Some have self-limiting beliefs that prevent them from fully actualizing those options, like low self esteem, fear of abandonement, control issues, etc, but they are there. Once they hit the wall, yes they lose some of their options have have to settle for their own level.
And how many of those dudes are boring, lame, nice guy, AFCs that have no game? How many are dudes that have nothing going for them? Dead end jobs, no money, unemployed, live with their parents? How many are terrible in the bedroom, 2 pump chumps that last 2 minutes or less?

That's like 95% of guys that aren't married these days.

Those aren't good options. Women would rather be single than date them.
 

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The Wall is not even that big of a deal for a most deal. It's more like a padded cushion. Plenty of men are thirsting for women in their 40s and 50s.
because simps will simp and have not respect for themselves
Roosh wrote that article in 2014. Nothing has changed in regard to that since 2014. I believe that men are even thirstier now than in 2014.

And how many of those dudes are boring, lame, nice guy, AFCs that have no game?
I think we've all known some white collar, college educated men with decent incomes who fit that description. A lot of men would be in this bucket.

How many are dudes that have nothing going for them? Dead end jobs, no money, unemployed, live with their parents?
There are men here as well. It doesn't take much to end up living with your parents. One job loss based upon the whims of executive management at a company would put a lot of men back home. Graduating into a recession as well.

That's like 95% of guys that aren't married these days.

Those aren't good options. Women would rather be single than date them.
I agree that women would rather be single than date a lot of men out there. Women are quite fussy and send a lot of good men to the rejection pile, along with the ones that have nothing going for them. The employed, boring, AFCs with no game outnumber than complete losers though. The employed, boring, AFCs would be decent mates for women in another era. In the Boomer generation, a lot of those AFCs got married. AFCs started to become less desired for the X'er women (AFC as a term has its origins in Gen X). By the time the Millennials became old enough to have a significant presence in the mating market, AFCs were even less desired than they were in Gen X.
 
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