You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Very interesting,so much bias.
i disagree on this some work hard but probably not as hard as some men.
Not all women bro. There are some driven inspired women. While they have an equivalent to a male con man she traps a rich guy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
So many more possible explanation than ppl being sexist, but they do concede that men are more competitive.
I agree,i think its mostly a social trend that make them believe that this is the way to go.
Then maybe they should start acting like that then. Instead of slvtting it up and riding the carousel. I can understand sowing some wild oats before you settle down, but engaging in that type of behavior long term and chasing guys who will not commit is not really conducive to the ultimate goal.
I didn't think there was any disrespect at all, no need to apologize. Just making conversation here.
The fact that men overwhelmingly fill the most difficult roles and work more hours. Don't get me wrong. I'm not some MRA crying about it. Just saying that is reality. Throughout history men have been the ones to build cities and roads. Women throughout history have birthed and nurtured those men when they were young. It is the way of our species.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.