"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Women always seem to beat around the bush

mahon83050

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Has anyone ever had a women you were pursuing bluntly tell you why they were not interested?

I.E.

There is a chick at work I have been after. I get some good vibes from her, but she seems to play some mind games.

The other day I saw her going out to eat with some other guy. She could be seeing the guy for all I know, but I always believe women will always make some excuse: Instead of saying, Oh, I am not attracted to you or Oh, I am seeing somebody. It seems they will just beat around the bush and not tell you the truth.

Another example,,,,,I asked this other chick out via e-mail (I did not have her #) and she said sure,,,maybe when I get back from Vegas...I then asked for her # and she never got back to me in the past three weeks.

IMO, I think most women take the easy way out because they do not want to hurt your feelings.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I learned that the key to dealing with these types of women is to do your own thing and act like you don't care. Indifference is the most important DJ trait to have in my opinion.
 

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I don't have anything to add or say, except for the fact that I saw "women" and "bush" in the thread title. :)

Originally posted by mahon83050
IMO, I think most women take the easy way out because they do not want to hurt your feelings.
I wonder how many times this has been discussed before.
You are correct.
 

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the only way i can tell if the girl wants me is if i'm getting some sex action, if not then i always act aloof/indifferent, but then again i also play some flirt/mind games to push their buttons...
 

SDBmania

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Women usually tell me when they have boyfriends, usually after I aske them out.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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after all those posts you just found that out?
 
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