Woman reschedules date then tries to change location at last minute. I cancel

[BackInTheGame78]

Was supposed to meet this woman last Tuesday, she was forced to stay late at work and asks to reschedule for the next day. I tell her I have plans that day and it won't work. Then she asks what about Friday...tell her I am busy til next week and we make plans for today.

Now the location has been set for almost a week and a half at this point and an hour before the time we are supposed to meet she texts me and says she doesn't like that place and if I can meet her at this other place which happens to be in her town.

No. F that.

So I let her know that if this date goes well maybe we can check out that other place another time but that I will be at the original location at 7 and I will see her there.

She says "Wow".

So at this point I am not even interested in meeting someone this entitled and tell her

"On second thought enjoy your evening at XYZ. First you reschedule and now you try and change the location at the last minute. If you are this difficult before meeting I can't imagine what it will be like after. Take care."

To which she replies "How rude!"

No b!tch. What is rude is you thinking I am going to let you dictate how things are going to go and that I am going to drive to all the way to you so you can be 5 minutes from home and put in no effort and expect me to pay.

No time for this type of BS in my life. She is a headache waiting to happen for someone and it won't be me. Either you get compliance or you walk.

This is what having more dates than you know what to do with allows you to do. If they don't get with your program from the get go they can kick rocks.

 

[DreamAgain]

Weeded out low interest, saved yourself time and money. Seems like a good outcome.

 

[stringpuller]

Was supposed to meet this woman last Tuesday, she was forced to stay late at work and asks to reschedule for the next day. I tell her I have plans that day and it won't work. Then she asks what about Friday...tell her I am busy til next week and we make plans for today.

Now the location has been set for almost a week and a half at this point and an hour before the time we are supposed to meet she texts me and says she doesn't like that place and if I can meet her at this other place which happens to be in her town.

No. F that.

So I let her know that if this date goes well maybe we can check out that other place another time but that I will be at the original location at 7 and I will see her there.

She says "Wow".

So at this point I am not even interested in meeting someone this entitled and tell her

"On second thought enjoy your evening at XYZ. First you reschedule and now you try and change the location at the last minute. If you are this difficult before meeting I can't imagine what it will be like after. Take care."

To which she replies "How rude!"

No b!tch. What is rude is you thinking I am going to let you dictate how things are going to go and that I am going to drive to all the way to you so you can be 5 minutes from home and put in no effort and expect me to pay.

No time for this type of BS in my life. She is a headache waiting to happen for someone and it won't be me. Either you get compliance or you walk.

This is what having more dates than you know what to do with allows you to do. If they don't get with your program from the get go they can kick rocks.

Corey Wayne actually has a great way to deal with this and the dude is calm as fck with it.
He gets no love here i get it but the medium is the message. Its still good

 

[stringpuller]

On second thought enjoy your evening at XYZ.

You should have stopped right there.
From reading your posts you dont handle flaky chics to well.
You gotta kill em with kindness bro. Like indifference to the level 10.

Example.
Her. Wow how rude bye..
You...crickets...
Her...(The next week or month)
Hey been thinking about you...
You... Who is this??

You guys let these girls work you up way to easy and you are TO ENGAGED. IMO

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You should have stopped right there.
From reading your posts you dont handle flaky chics to well.
You gotta kill em with kindness bro. Like indifference to the level 10.

Example.
Her. Wow how rude bye..
You...crickets...
Her...(The next week or month)
Hey been thinking about you...
You... Who is this??

You guys let these girls work you up way to easy and you are TO ENGAGED. IMO

No bro. She is done. This isn't about trying to figure out a way to rekindle her interest, it's me telling her to kick rocks.

 

[stringpuller]

No bro. She is done. This isn't about trying to figure out a way to rekindle her interest, it's me telling her to kick rocks.

Used to many words. She doesnt give a hoot. You spilled it in your reply.

 

[stringpuller]

First you reschedule and now you try and change the location at the last minute. If you are this difficult before meeting I can't imagine what it will be like after. Take care.

Way to much investment bro. A women that did this to me gets an ok or crickets if she is lucky.
You got emotional with a girl you just met. Thats beta bro

 

[stringpuller]

No bro. She is done. This isn't about trying to figure out a way to rekindle her interest, it's me telling her to kick rocks.

I don't know who made you a moderator but they need their head checked. Just my opinion. The governance must be going to shyt around here. Might be tome to exit...

 

[backseatjuan]

Now the location has been set for almost a week and a half at this point and an hour before the time we are supposed to meet she texts me and says she doesn't like that place and if I can meet her at this other place which happens to be in her town.

This is an 'availability trap' with a twist, if not time, then place. It's a sht test, you passed with flying colors. Availability trap explained

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is an 'availability trap' with a twist, if not time, then place. It's a sht test, you passed with flying colors. Availability trap explained

She can kick rocks. Even if she begged me to go out with her at this point it's not happening. I have enough women that make it easy to meet them that I don't have time for this silliness.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I don't know who made you a moderator but they need their head checked. Just my opinion. The governance must be going to shyt around here. Might be tome to exit...

Thanks for the tip.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Way to much investment bro. A women that did this to me gets an ok or crickets if she is lucky.
You got emotional with a girl you just met. Thats beta bro

No emotion was intended. I just basically told her to kick rocks and walked away.

 

[RangerMIke]

No problem with this... certainly you should just cancel if you don't want to change location.

I usually handle stuff like this different. I play around with it, I'll say something like "So... want are you willing to do if I agree? You have to make it worth my while." Or I'll say "Does this mean you are paying? If so sure, I'll go with your plan."

If she acts like a butt hurt entitled b1tch, then I just decline. But sometimes you would be surprised how they respond to this approach.

 

[Trojan3000]

Man, don't ever lose your cool with women. Wasting any emotion on women is not worth it.

You never know what a girl is thinking, I don't see why you were so bothered by the last minute change. what if she decided somewhere closer to her place because she wanted you to come back there with her if the night went well? maybe she wanted to pick a spot she was more comfortable with.

I mean im glad that you feel proud that you did this, but, here's the thing.. Women are complex man. Women have periods. They aren't the same as men. As a guy, your goal is to craftily get to the prize (her pu$$y) not play emotional hissy fit with them. If someone looks at that convo, many would say you were the one who got emotional.

regardless, its just a girl out of many to come so its not a big deal either way. but from my own perspective, i woulda accepted her move, because i know i got many moves i want to employ on her . its like chess. but the mindset is always about "having fun" . i think you went into it with the subconscious frame that shes manipulating u or something idk

the good thing here is you stuck to your guns and made a stance. this is a valuable asset to have that many nice guys dont have. shouldnt have even texted her all that though.

 

[bat soup]

I think you were right not to accept it, but wrong to show your anger and get into an argument with her.

It would have been better just to say you're tired and don't feel like going so far away and if she insisted, just ok let's leave it for another time.

 

[Solomon]

I had a woman recently do something similar flake then claimed she was having car issues and to pick her up (mind you she lives 35 minutes from me) not only that but she wanted me to take her out for "Brunch" 22 year old who still lives with mommy and daddy

I laughed and deleted her number to many women out here to worry about 1 that wants to make me jump through all these hoops

 

[bcude]

I think you handled it well. She doesn't like the place? She had over a week to think about that, kinda rude to change location last minute. Not only location, she changed CITY. A date is a gift and if she's putting up resistance like that already it says alot about the future with her as you pointed out. Guessing she was older (30+) since this is typical behavior when they become entitled and demanding.

I would have answered abit differently and calmly explained that i've reserved this time and won't make it to her town and if she can't come this might be not worth all the trouble. But no harm in calling them out when it's warranted, that's the only way they will learn. Who cares how it might come off when she's never going to get any attention from you ever again. State your point and bye. Live true to yourself.

Next.

 

[Lookatu]

Thirsty men are at fault here for letting gals get spoiled this way and entitled. Girls feel they don't have to meet halfway anymore on anything these days as there will always be a beta simp willing to cave into their demands unfortunately.

This is the sad state of society these days...

 

[SW15]

This is the downside of an overreliance on text messaging. Text messaging is bad for dating.

With that said, there probably wasn't much salvageable about this situation.

 

[2Rocky]

Should have told her "Oh that's too bad. I had a car on it's way to meet you. I'll cancel it"

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