You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
my opinion: :yes:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
They would say "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle"MatureDJ said:
..to get back in the kitchen. :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:( . )( . ) said:
My mistake. The first four "A woman needs a"noobolgy said:
Heh true. But first we got to re-teach them it's more than just a place where frozen chicken nuggets and cat food is kept.logicallefty said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Don't need to go far to find out, comment section is as expected.MatureDJ said:
Boom, there it is, egalitarian marriage. I think that's a feminist's new favorite word. It's okay to get married, just as long as the husband is emasculated.That's funny, I met my husband at the age of 37, and now we have an amazing child and a really happy marriage. And I DON'T meet him at the door with a ****tail (not that he'd likely drink it.) We have an egalitarian marriage based on love and mutual respect. We almost never fight, if I was someone else I'd probably hate us.
logicallefty said:
logicallefty said:
•in a monotone voice•logicallefty said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Vulpine said:
I think a big factor is a female in her early 20's has a lot more bargaining power and value to get married. I think more of these mid-30's guys would commit to marriage if it was an early 20's girl.zekko said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
