You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'm betting $10 this ends up involving organ theft.juan95 said:Related: $10 says she's psycho. Takers?
+1Alle_Gory said:I'm betting $10 this ends up involving organ theft.![]()
Alle_Gory said:I'm betting $10 this ends up involving organ theft.![]()
blackwolf said:i know.. she told me she works in a lab, like some kind of scientist
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Rollo Tomassi said:I really hate to be the bucket of cold water on such an entertaining thread, but the OP's original forum name is chance.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=1626851
The reason this is significant is because his threads read like an encyclopedia for the dispossessed frustrated chump. Try not to take that as a flame, but understand that assuming your whole story isn't some grand illusion to occupy your otherwise boring life of digital Buffers, your only reason for taking this situation to the level it's gotten to is because you are so hopelessly, socially, inept that experiencing women IRL is frightening for you. This seems like a good idea because you have no better options, and haven't had any for a very long time.
Under a different monicker, you've been a member of this forum since 2004; you already know what the members here are going to advise about this. So there are really two justifications for you starting this thread:
1. You have no other other options where you're at and you're fearful of any real life contact, so flirting with a woman (assuming here) behind the firewall of an IM, email, or even video chat provides you with a sense of insulation against rejection. Everything in your past thread history indicates this. This is why an aging Asian virgin is not only a viable option for you, but preferable to making actual approaches in the real world.
2. You're trolling. You know damn well what the community here will advise, but since it's more entertaining to string us along with the fantastic you'll play along. It's even more fun when like-minded "forever alone" chumps such as yourself buy into the fantasy, back you up and tell you not to listen to the pessimist naysayers and go for it. I'll admit it does make for a humorous thread (kidneynapping LMAO).
Just for the record; why would you need a visa to travel to the U.S. to take what basically amounts to a vacation? Are you planning on working or staying here for an extended period?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uCacbNlrqYk
Enjoy.
The OP has been pwned. Good Night folks.Rollo Tomassi said:I really hate to be the bucket of cold water on such an entertaining thread, but the OP's original forum name is chance.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=1626851
The reason this is significant is because his threads read like an encyclopedia for the dispossessed frustrated chump. Try not to take that as a flame, but understand that assuming your whole story isn't some grand illusion to occupy your otherwise boring life of digital Buffers, your only reason for taking this situation to the level it's gotten to is because you are so hopelessly, socially, inept that experiencing women IRL is frightening for you. This seems like a good idea because you have no better options, and haven't had any for a very long time.
Under a different monicker, you've been a member of this forum since 2004; you already know what the members here are going to advise about this. So there are really two justifications for you starting this thread:
1. You have no other other options where you're at and you're fearful of any real life contact, so flirting with a woman (assuming here) behind the firewall of an IM, email, or even video chat provides you with a sense of insulation against rejection. Everything in your past thread history indicates this. This is why an aging Asian virgin is not only a viable option for you, but preferable to making actual approaches in the real world.
2. You're trolling. You know damn well what the community here will advise, but since it's more entertaining to string us along with the fantastic you'll play along. It's even more fun when like-minded "forever alone" chumps such as yourself buy into the fantasy, back you up and tell you not to listen to the pessimist naysayers and go for it. I'll admit it does make for a humorous thread (kidneynapping LMAO).
Just for the record; why would you need a visa to travel to the U.S. to take what basically amounts to a vacation? Are you planning on working or staying here for an extended period?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uCacbNlrqYk
Enjoy.
Rollo Tomassi said:I really hate to be the bucket of cold water on such an entertaining thread, but the OP's original forum name is chance.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=1626851
The reason this is significant is because his threads read like an encyclopedia for the dispossessed frustrated chump. Try not to take that as a flame, but understand that assuming your whole story isn't some grand illusion to occupy your otherwise boring life of digital Buffers, your only reason for taking this situation to the level it's gotten to is because you are so hopelessly, socially, inept that experiencing women IRL is frightening for you. This seems like a good idea because you have no better options, and haven't had any for a very long time.
Under a different monicker, you've been a member of this forum since 2004; you already know what the members here are going to advise about this. So there are really two justifications for you starting this thread:
1. You have no other other options where you're at and you're fearful of any real life contact, so flirting with a woman (assuming here) behind the firewall of an IM, email, or even video chat provides you with a sense of insulation against rejection. Everything in your past thread history indicates this. This is why an aging Asian virgin is not only a viable option for you, but preferable to making actual approaches in the real world.
2. You're trolling. You know damn well what the community here will advise, but since it's more entertaining to string us along with the fantastic you'll play along. It's even more fun when like-minded "forever alone" chumps such as yourself buy into the fantasy, back you up and tell you not to listen to the pessimist naysayers and go for it. I'll admit it does make for a humorous thread (kidneynapping LMAO).
Just for the record; why would you need a visa to travel to the U.S. to take what basically amounts to a vacation? Are you planning on working or staying here for an extended period?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uCacbNlrqYk
Enjoy.
Shut up you fuvking fag. Nobody cares about your opinions. The only fantasy here is that you are a two week old monkey boy who thinks he knows anything about people. Shut the fuvk up and get a life. Stupid homosexual men who pose as straight men cannot and will not have a place in these forums.ELMER_GANTRY said:Great post Rollo, couldn't have said it any better myself. I knew this
was fake, just like that student/teacher one I found. It was just funny to read the continuous fantasy saga going on.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Throughout the whole thread, this was the only thing going over and over through my mind.Warrior74 said:Lot of scared dudes in this thread.
I wish some chic would offer to fly me away and pay for all of my stuff. I'd be there in a heartbeat, and if she started tripping and acting crazy, I'd just be catch the next flight back, because my ticket will be round trip.
Also I would come back with some fresh new gear and new toys. Sugar mama for the win.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.