You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Definitely not.So i encountered this in the past and recently happened the same from a different girl .
The question? The girl finished too fast . In less than 10 minutes of play time .
As i said , it happened in the past but had no experience then . It happened now again .
Why? Premature orgasm? Too horny ?Was i too good or too bad for this to happen?
The last chick where this happened we fcked twice. First time She finished while i was penetrating and the second time while fingering her . Should i worry about my performance?
I truly can‘t read anything in your posts, that should concern you. Especially not about your performance.Update :
We met last Friday night in her place . We were both tired . We were sitting on the couch and i felt horny so i started playing with her . She was down for some play time and we went straight to the bed . She just wanted that we lay on the bed and make out . She started playing with my D and i went with my hand on her V . Started fingering her and playing with her **** . We were doing that for as long as 30 minutes along with some dirty talk . Kept the pace slow and changed the speed all the time . She seemed to like it and enjoying the whole moment . When i upped the speed she finished but she kept playing with my D till i was able to finish. As soon as i finished we laid there for some time and then i left cause i had to wake up early the next day .
So whats ya all think about the whole situation? Should i worry about anything as i explained in my op?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
so you didnt... "finish her" ?As soon as i finished we laid there for some time and then i left
I did finished her . I went very hard on her in last moment and that’s when she finished.so you didnt... "finish her" ?
you need to DESTROY her before any finishing yourself... whether your finger, tongue or D
you stepped up to bat - hey batter batter
you hit the ball - yay
you made it to 3rd base... - woo
advice:
you should be swinging for HOME RUNS
What kind of info should i provide? I think i was quite detailed in my explanation .Women are capable of multiple orgasms. Unless she's drunk and half passed out, before you even get into bed, it shouldn't be a problem. Women can, sometimes, be a little sensitive, immediately after orgasm, but the only issue with continuing usually is imposed by the male refractory period. If you're habitually falling into bed with girls who finish before you do, don't want to continue, afterwards, and are feeling no compulsion to help you finish...yeah, you're probably doing a few things wrong, but more info is needed to determine exactly what.
The first time i slept on her place , and the next morning we played a bit again but i had to leave and didn’t make her finish . The other times is as i explained .Was she drinking?
Did she pass out, after she got off?
Did she get up and leave, after she got off?
Are these one-offs, or girls seeking a repeat performance?
If she's into you, she'll want to get you off; if she isn't really into you, she may just want to get you off of her.
There's a lot of missing information.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
My guess would be inexperience. I’ve been with many women and i could tell the difference if she was experienced or not . I’m not inexperienced myself . She is too selfish to be taught and i ain’t got the patience or being too attracted to her and teach her some moves . Times to focus on different things . Another chapter for my life is opening!Could be inexperience, but if that's it, she should be receptive to being taught. However, taking a break from women is never a bad idea.