"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Woman confesses she no longer loves BF after finding out he was raped

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If she found out that a female did something inappropriate to him, I’m willing to bet that she would let it go. But since the person that did this to him was male, she considers him “tainted” because of the same sex nature of what happened.

Add in the vulnerability he showed, plus ED, and it’s total game over for him with her.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If she found out that a female did something inappropriate to him, I’m willing to bet that she would let it go. But since the person that did this to him was male, she considers him “tainted” because of the same sex nature of what happened.

Add in the vulnerability he showed, plus ED, and it’s total game over for him with her.
Perfect analysis, if that was his stepsister to suck his d1ck he would probably even score points.
 

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Agreed. I’m with you in that the reasonable course of action would be to wait a bit & see. And she should be true to herself as well. Thing is with women as we all know...emotions can be irrational. It can be difficult to behave rationally in the situation. But it’s also true you cannot negotiate desire...however desire ebbs and flows over time in a LTR as well. This couple may be too young & inexperienced to know that.
Alot of females like guys in gangs or whove been to prison. And some of those men were raped, others were raped and in turn raped other men. These are men chock full of masculinity and dominance.
Perfect analysis, if that was his stepsister to suck his d1ck he would probably even score points.
So if his step sister "raped" him by giving him head then it's "cool"?
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So if his step sister "raped" him by giving him head then it's "cool"?
Hey, the step siblings got together in Clueless, and nobody raised a stink about it.
 

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"step" siblings mean you share the same biological mother or father, right?
No, I think that's a half brother or half sister.
A step is if like if your dad marries a new wife and she already has her own kids.

Edited to say:
I see someone already answered this, so I'll add this:
On the Flash TV show, Iris' dad adopted Barry (the Flash) when he was a child. And when they grew up, Barry married Iris.
Not quite the same thing, but kind of weird. Sort of like marrying a virtual sister, but no blood relation.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It is best for his sake that she leave him. If she can't last one rough week then it's not going to work well longterm.

On another note, a few secrets are going to my grave. No, I was not molested.
 

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Damn, I haven't been on SoSuave for a couple days.. I wasn't expecting this thread to get this much attention. A lot of people making some great points.
 

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Your girlfriend/wife is not your psychiatrist and your bedroom is not a confessional. If more men would remember that, then they'd be a lot happier.
Its true.
Like, if you can't say it on a first date don't say it 200 dates in. Give somebody a heads up you are healing from trauma on the first date. Its the rational, polite thing to do
 

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It should be carved in stone, somewhere, that keeping your mouth shut is responsible for more long-term happiness than confession.
I completely agree. A man can get more assistance from a psychologist than his woman. Maybe even if she's experienced the trauma or she has that extremely kind and nurturing type of personality and he THINKS she can help him better than a psychologist...guess what?
The trained, third party doctor is the best route. Don't like that doctor? Get a new one, even if you have to travel far for appointments.
Burdening others when they don't have the training or skills to help you heal.....how is that nice?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Your girlfriend/wife is not your psychiatrist and your bedroom is not a confessional. If more men would remember that, then they'd be a lot happier.
There simply isn't any benefit for a man to knowingly expose his weaknesses like that.
 
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