"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Woman busy at night, wants to meet for lunch/afternoon...

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Met this woman, seems really interested, told me she liked my confidence, etc...

Texted her I wanted to get together with her next week sometime and asked what days she would be free to do that.

She responded she was busy during the evenings next week, but could meet during the afternoon any day other than Monday...

Have never met for an afternoon date before, is there a different set of rules to play by? Escalation likely more difficult but I've also read some guys like afternoon dates because if you do escalate its unexpected and can work better than at night when their guard might be up more...

Opinions welcome, or should I wait and push for a evening meet up?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I fail to see the problem here?!
 

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No.Danny said:
I fail to see the problem here?!
Lol, no problem, moreso wondering if there are different sets of rules to go by for afternoon versus evening meet ups
 

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Rules?
Ha...... .
Is this what this community has become?
 

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Women have lunch with their girlfriends after a day of shopping.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Just go with the flow.
 

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The day is a lot less "romantic."

Its an interesting effect the darker environment has on people but the point is its easier to get a little flirty and "loosen up" in darker areas, and I know this from experience my night game is astounding. Why do you think everywhere "romantic" takes place or is perceived taking place at night? Robert is right, you could be with your friends shopping or something else during the day. But if she's really interested, like you say, then it doesn't matter. Just know it may be a little harder depending on her interest level and the type of game you have and are both comfortable with. With that being said afternoon dates are typically more casual, which the issues above happen so just be flirty and playful(and use kino when necessary!) and you should be fine.

Or this could be a test... Letting her decide time of day etc... I would ignore that and set up a day date though, she could actually be busy. But if you know for a fact she isn't busy then keep asking for night dates and if she declines go ghost and see other girls and repeat until she realizes you aren't moving with her lame idea.

Just don't do morning dates...
 

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Ha, you do not need drugs or alcohol for a date. I just took my date out to the river a few days ago around 2pm and we had a great time!

ACTION DATES kid! Mini-Golf, Dancing, Local Events, Museums, Fishing, Target Shooting..
 

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Frayzer said:
The day is a lot less "romantic."

Its an interesting effect the darker environment has on people but the point is its easier to get a little flirty and "loosen up" in darker areas, and I know this from experience my night game is astounding. Why do you think everywhere "romantic" takes place or is perceived taking place at night? Robert is right, you could be with your friends shopping or something else during the day. But if she's really interested, like you say, then it doesn't matter. Just know it may be a little harder depending on her interest level and the type of game you have and are both comfortable with. With that being said afternoon dates are typically more casual, which the issues above happen so just be flirty and playful(and use kino when necessary!) and you should be fine.

Or this could be a test... Letting her decide time of day etc... I would ignore that and set up a day date though, she could actually be busy. But if you know for a fact she isn't busy then keep asking for night dates and if she declines go ghost and see other girls and repeat until she realizes you aren't moving with her lame idea.

Just don't do morning dates...
I know she is probably busy...she is a real estate agent and owns her own business on top of that
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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