Peaks&Valleys
Master Don Juan
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Pairs, this time, and this time only, you should listen to your own advice.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Stop playing the victim.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Pairs, this time, and this time only, you should listen to your own advice.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Stop playing the victim.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Do you still have texts from this woman?Kailex said:As an addendum to my earlier story about the cheating Meetup girl. She found out through a mutual friend that I, in fact, do go out with other women and have been spotted at other places.
She is angry at me and has told someone within our group that if I am at future events, she won't be there. Mind you, I am an organizer within that group. When she was asked as to the "why", she simply stated that she didn't like the way I treated women.
Most of the people there were baffled because they've never seen this of me and had no idea what she was talking about because I've never hit on anyone within the group.
Even though she has a boyfriend and a problematic relationship, she draws the line at me being able to go out with anyone else. How dare I!? She is in a relationship for 3 years and is willing to chance all of that for a few lays with someone her boyfriend knows, but if I want to go around (while having 0 committment to her), I am IMMEDIATELY the villain.
So interesting how they dress up their own imaginary worlds to fit whatever reality they want to wear at the time. And this is why I always keep my distance with any girl willing to cheat on her boyfriend.
If so, I'd hang onto em. This woman, might one day, if pressed, make up a story that you were coming on to her and blah, blah, blah. As it is right now, she's trying to sabotage you for whatever self-entitled reasoning is going through her hamster brain.After that, she's texted me once or twice to go "hang out". They are in the midst of "breaking up" anyway, she says.