Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Post some of your experiences on the results you got from withholding attention and being able to walk away.

The more I mature the more I realize how important it is to refrain from smothering and having the ability to walk away when things turn sour or when there is no potential of things developing between two people
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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moving on became easier, it took time but eventually I moved on

I'm now in the same situation again, withholding attention from the girl I like since i realized that she only wants friendship while I want a relationship...it's kinda hard since I get to see her online everyday and we share a class 3x a week, but I'm coping, I'm doing this to move on but I can't shake the fact that I'm still hoping that she'd initiate something again aside from the message she sent last week which I still haven't replied to
 
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withholding works well, but doesn't work for all girls. Don't let the boat sail to far or else the next guy will pick her up and that can happen any minute.
 
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Err0r said:
withholding works well, but doesn't work for all girls. Don't let the boat sail to far or else the next guy will pick her up and that can happen any minute.
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but shouldn't be the point is to not actually care about her anymore, it's up to her whether or not she would chase us to come back...either way we're already moving on chasing other HBs
 
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docj, hang in there and be aloof. woman want what is just outside their reach. i'm in a similar situation-gave her too much attention and became LJBF. Now I am purposely staying "too busy" and she's starting to invite me out. be aloof.. be a mystery. and if it doesnt work out... you dont worry because you are continueing to spin those plates!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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KontrollerX wrote a excellent post on this recently. It was a reply to a thread helping some dudes out.

To further reinforce this you might want to search the posts his made and you should be able to see it. Yep take-aways are the best option and don't bother explaining and confronting.

Young man will make this mistakes but as you go along you realize that walk away is the best.
 
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I am actually on the verge of smothering her with attention all over again, 'cause I actually haven't been rejected or LJBF'd I just feel that there's nothing developing between us which is why I initiated NC/ganji/take away...
sometimes I just want to follow pook's advice that it's better to be rejected than doing nothing, but take-away is doing something (active disinterest), this is getting confusing especially since I'm still crazy about her
 
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doctorj said:
I am actually on the verge of smothering her with attention all over again, 'cause I actually haven't been rejected or LJBF'd I just feel that there's nothing developing between us which is why I initiated NC/ganji/take away...
sometimes I just want to follow pook's advice that it's better to be rejected than doing nothing, but take-away is doing something (active disinterest), this is getting confusing especially since I'm still crazy about her
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She already rejected you. She only wants your friendship.
 
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Maybe it's a cultural thing (I'm Latino in a Latino country), but in my experience, withholding attention hasn't worked. Of course i'm not saying you have to smother her with attention, but whenever things are starting to go downhill and I've tried to play the "mysterious" or "busy" game, the girls simply don't bother chasing/calling, and when I reappear they have moved on to other things. You've got to find balance.
 
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I'm in the same situation.
a girl ive been dating's interest level has obviously plummeted, now she barely calls or texts anymore. I wouldnt mind to keep fvcking her, but
I refuse to contact her first because she isn't worth the chase. Smart move?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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CRDJit said:
Maybe it's a cultural thing (I'm Latino in a Latino country), but in my experience, withholding attention hasn't worked. Of course i'm not saying you have to smother her with attention, but whenever things are starting to go downhill and I've tried to play the "mysterious" or "busy" game, the girls simply don't bother chasing/calling, and when I reappear they have moved on to other things. You've got to find balance.
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It has more chances of being effective if she has interest in you from the start then for whatever reason plumetted, if she didn't care for you at all...then it wouldn't really matter, withholding attention wouldn't do shvt
 
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