"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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With prom coming up, here's an important dancing thread bump

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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=50818

This is a very powerful post. If you are interested in dancing in any way (which you should be if you're going to go to prom) read this and lets discuss dancing tips, technique whatever.

One thing KC says in his post is that when you move a girl's hands above your head, they should fall and she'll instinctively hold your head. This never worked for me :confused:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Touchout

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Good thread, I haven't been clubbing in a while, I need to go otherwise I will be rusty.
 

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Take dancing in school. Not only your confidence, dancing skills increase, you also meet lots of hot chicks. Anyways, dancing never been a big problem for me, I got the moves :D!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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why are you trying to learn to dance from youtube?

dude I remember I was like that last year freaking out about dancing, but seirously if you just GRAB YOUR BALLS during prom, no girl will reject you..

..actually some girls like 3 rejected me but I moved on and danced w/like 8 different girls. no date for me haha but it was fun and I overcame my fear of being a rigid sh1tty dancer. no will is looking at you...trust me...and many girls who had secret crushes on you will come out and just dance w/you if you ask them. this is no joke..i was surprised.

dont worry about this sh1t, and never try to learn dancing from youtube. you get good by doing something, not watching other people do it on the internet
 

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I will add a disclaimer that is necessary for some people on here:

By grab your balls, I meant "grab your balls" figuratively, like have confidence. Do not literally grab your balls on the dance floor.
 

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Potbelly said:
I will add a disclaimer that is necessary for some people on here:

By grab your balls, I meant "grab your balls" figuratively, like have confidence. Do not literally grab your balls on the dance floor.
But it looks so groovy.
 

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Docs said:
But it looks so groovy.
LOL and potbelly its not to teach you how to dance but to show you the hip movement and rhythm so at least u get an idea.
 

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Potbelly said:
why are you trying to learn to dance from youtube?

dude I remember I was like that last year freaking out about dancing, but seirously if you just GRAB YOUR BALLS during prom, no girl will reject you..

..actually some girls like 3 rejected me but I moved on and danced w/like 8 different girls. no date for me haha but it was fun and I overcame my fear of being a rigid sh1tty dancer. no will is looking at you...trust me...and many girls who had secret crushes on you will come out and just dance w/you if you ask them. this is no joke..i was surprised.

dont worry about this sh1t, and never try to learn dancing from youtube. you get good by doing something, not watching other people do it on the internet
this is true too, but just remember, if you can awestrike a girl on the dancefloor, she will come back, and she WILL talk about you to other girls in a good light
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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