win-over the LJBF situation? how?

[sad samurai]

so this girl i hung out with for couple of weeks did this to me when i started to push a little bit forward. shes kinda gets her "best friend" into the scene like "hey u know there is a great girl in my firm that we should all get together to have a drink sometimes" - worse thing is although she put that in a vague way but she asks my sister directly "what type of girl i like? maybe she can keep an eye on it for me" ...

hell, this is very much a LJBF i believe. what i need for the gurus is that:

1. am i wrong and over reacting? maybe she tends to push me away to "test my limit"

2. so lets say it is 100% LJBF, and how do i win-over it...

can someone say something?

 

[sav]

you win HER over by not being available ....

but, this can prove fairly difficult... what i would do in ur case is use her for her friends..

 

[tn2005]

what I would do to is to take her out of her comfort zone, if she really things that you are just a friend she probably wont have a problem going to a "cool club/bar/ some other cool attraction" with you. Isolate her by inviting her and her alone, then once the two of you are together in this place don't be available to her romantically, hit on other women and pay her less attention. Believe it or not this will drive her your way.

 

[zack77766]

you win HER over by not being available ....

but, this can prove fairly difficult... what i would do in ur case is use her for her friends..

Good idea. Exes remain exes.