Just curious to know now that we have all 'learnt' about the opposite sex and we are self discovering ourselves and learning to be happy by ourselves, how many of you still have dreams of getting married?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Will you Marry?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Being happy with yourself doesn't necessarily mean that you want to be happy by yourself. At best one may have learned that having another person in your life may be for reasons other than the purpose of making you happy (because you're already there). Now is it necessary to get married? Well... Wait, there's already a few posts about this...
SickAgain
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On one hand I don't want to get married because of the very redundant and domesticated lifestyle I would be living. On the other hand, I know IF I ever get married I would have found a really special girl who I would never want to leave my life, which would be a rare thing.
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With due respect to Azanon, Rollo, and whoever else is happy in a marriage (and I believe that, unfortunately, these guys are in a vanishingly small minority), I simply cannot understand why any man would get married in the current social climate. I DO understand why many men might WANT to. I did. And so, I got married - mostly with the goal of providing a two-parent family for my kids. They don't have one now. So, what was the point?
Those still in favor of marriage point to security/companionship/familial or cultural pressures, etc.
The only really valid reason I can think of is the last. Family is important, and if your family/culture really supports (or even demands) marriage, and you marry within that culture, you might have a good shot at it. But, other than that, the other arguments just don't take into account the real world we're living in. Marriage in the wider US culture has become a big ol' joke.
This topic has been flogged to death on this forum, but I've never posted directly about it on a "marriage" thread, so thanks for indulging me.
As to the title question --- for me ----> never again.
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With due respect to Azanon, Rollo, and whoever else is happy in a marriage (and I believe that, unfortunately, these guys are in a vanishingly small minority), I simply cannot understand why any man would get married in the current social climate. I DO understand why many men might WANT to. I did. And so, I got married - mostly with the goal of providing a two-parent family for my kids. They don't have one now. So, what was the point?
Those still in favor of marriage point to security/companionship/familial or cultural pressures, etc.
The only really valid reason I can think of is the last. Family is important, and if your family/culture really supports (or even demands) marriage, and you marry within that culture, you might have a good shot at it. But, other than that, the other arguments just don't take into account the real world we're living in. Marriage in the wider US culture has become a big ol' joke.
This topic has been flogged to death on this forum, but I've never posted directly about it on a "marriage" thread, so thanks for indulging me.
As to the title question --- for me ----> never again.
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Why not!!
Is that not our final goal, if you believe you are not improving by coming to this forum then why bother?
The whole purpose for my being here is to understand the men-to-woman interaction, and use the skills to sort out my life partner, as they say, the things will only manifest in reallity if you allow it, so get your self out of negative mindset..
WE'r learning to please woman on this forums for gods shake, I have to think that after some time most of the member get good chemistry with woman, so why not fulfill the need to belong when its possible..
But then again, I have not build up this negative feelings and emotions attached to the opposite sex as some of you have. Anyways I'd say keep an open mind for marriage and you might just find you're dream girl...
Is that not our final goal, if you believe you are not improving by coming to this forum then why bother?
The whole purpose for my being here is to understand the men-to-woman interaction, and use the skills to sort out my life partner, as they say, the things will only manifest in reallity if you allow it, so get your self out of negative mindset..
WE'r learning to please woman on this forums for gods shake, I have to think that after some time most of the member get good chemistry with woman, so why not fulfill the need to belong when its possible..
But then again, I have not build up this negative feelings and emotions attached to the opposite sex as some of you have. Anyways I'd say keep an open mind for marriage and you might just find you're dream girl...
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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When I do I will have a fat pre nup that's for sure! And if she doesn't like it she can go to hell.
if you marry an american female i will pray for you. go ahead and call me a loser for not wanting to pamper and chase down one, but i would rather be a monk than go through the hell that most of you are going through now. once you find one, convince her and her friends that you are not too much of a loser, spend money and loads of time on her, and listen to her stories of her past lovers the real fun begins - marriage! i won't even touch upon the fat issue, the age issue, or the lack of style and grace.
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Only a virgin is worthy of marriage!!!!! Otherwise overwhelming failure will be the result!!!
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Last Man Standing said:Only a virgin is worthy of marriage!!!!! Otherwise overwhelming failure will be the result!!!
Good luck with that. No wonder you aren't married.
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It is better that you throw a millstone (a very heavy grinding stone) around your neck and throw yourself into the sea, than marry a hor!!!!My Name is Nobody said:Good luck with that. No wonder you aren't married.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Last Man Standing said:It is better that you throw a millstone (a very heavy grinding stone) around your neck and throw yourself into the sea, than marry a hor!!!!
So you are saying that any woman that is not a virgin is a wh0re?
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I don't think I could ever trust a ho enough to marry her. Not because im insecrue just cause they the devil. Im young yet and never felt like I was in ''love'' with a girl before and made a chump outta myself but Im sure it'll happen at some stage. We all make mistakes. I'd prefer to be a bachler at 60 years old tryna pick up hot young chicks then a 60 year old man married to a granny cause I doubt they suddenly become attractive when you're old yourself.
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WRONG!! Wives are not virgins!! Are they hors?My Name is Nobody said:So you are saying that any woman that is not a virgin is a wh0re?
It is the same definition as the last million years - a hor is one who is getting pounced by one or two or fifty who are NOT her husband!!! Simple, very simple!!
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Last Man Standing said:WRONG!! Wives are not virgins!! Are they hors?
It is the same definition as the last million years - a hor is one who is getting pounced by one or two or fifty who are NOT her husband!!! Simple, very simple!!
But you just said that any woman you marry who is NOT a virgin is a "hor". You don't back up your statement?
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Yes, you married a hor!! But she cannot be a hor for submitting to her husband!!My Name is Nobody said:But you just said that any woman you marry who is NOT a virgin is a "hor". You don't back up your statement?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Last Man Standing said:Yes, you married a hor!! But she cannot be a hor for submitting to her husband!!
I'm not married. And you said she is already a wh0re if the woman is not a virgin when you marry her. So if she is ALREADY a wh0re (*like you said) how can she not be a hor just because she fukked her husband?
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is this site about getting married or dating?.....seems like all the guys here whimpy and want LTR. why? you would think a site called don juan would have more backbone. I think men in poverty are the ones that want to get married. I can't imagine a guy with money in his pocket would want the pain of a wife
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This site is about NASCAR. What the hell are you smoking?
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the kind