Just curious to know now that we have all 'learnt' about the opposite sex and we are self discovering ourselves and learning to be happy by ourselves, how many of you still have dreams of getting married?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Being happy with yourself doesn't necessarily mean that you want to be happy by yourself. At best one may have learned that having another person in your life may be for reasons other than the purpose of making you happy (because you're already there). Now is it necessary to get married? Well... Wait, there's already a few posts about this...
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On one hand I don't want to get married because of the very redundant and domesticated lifestyle I would be living. On the other hand, I know IF I ever get married I would have found a really special girl who I would never want to leave my life, which would be a rare thing.
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With due respect to Azanon, Rollo, and whoever else is happy in a marriage (and I believe that, unfortunately, these guys are in a vanishingly small minority), I simply cannot understand why any man would get married in the current social climate. I DO understand why many men might WANT to. I did. And so, I got married - mostly with the goal of providing a two-parent family for my kids. They don't have one now. So, what was the point?
Those still in favor of marriage point to security/companionship/familial or cultural pressures, etc.
The only really valid reason I can think of is the last. Family is important, and if your family/culture really supports (or even demands) marriage, and you marry within that culture, you might have a good shot at it. But, other than that, the other arguments just don't take into account the real world we're living in. Marriage in the wider US culture has become a big ol' joke.
This topic has been flogged to death on this forum, but I've never posted directly about it on a "marriage" thread, so thanks for indulging me.
As to the title question --- for me ----> never again.
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With due respect to Azanon, Rollo, and whoever else is happy in a marriage (and I believe that, unfortunately, these guys are in a vanishingly small minority), I simply cannot understand why any man would get married in the current social climate. I DO understand why many men might WANT to. I did. And so, I got married - mostly with the goal of providing a two-parent family for my kids. They don't have one now. So, what was the point?
Those still in favor of marriage point to security/companionship/familial or cultural pressures, etc.
The only really valid reason I can think of is the last. Family is important, and if your family/culture really supports (or even demands) marriage, and you marry within that culture, you might have a good shot at it. But, other than that, the other arguments just don't take into account the real world we're living in. Marriage in the wider US culture has become a big ol' joke.
This topic has been flogged to death on this forum, but I've never posted directly about it on a "marriage" thread, so thanks for indulging me.
As to the title question --- for me ----> never again.
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Why not!!
Is that not our final goal, if you believe you are not improving by coming to this forum then why bother?
The whole purpose for my being here is to understand the men-to-woman interaction, and use the skills to sort out my life partner, as they say, the things will only manifest in reallity if you allow it, so get your self out of negative mindset..
WE'r learning to please woman on this forums for gods shake, I have to think that after some time most of the member get good chemistry with woman, so why not fulfill the need to belong when its possible..
But then again, I have not build up this negative feelings and emotions attached to the opposite sex as some of you have. Anyways I'd say keep an open mind for marriage and you might just find you're dream girl...
Is that not our final goal, if you believe you are not improving by coming to this forum then why bother?
The whole purpose for my being here is to understand the men-to-woman interaction, and use the skills to sort out my life partner, as they say, the things will only manifest in reallity if you allow it, so get your self out of negative mindset..
WE'r learning to please woman on this forums for gods shake, I have to think that after some time most of the member get good chemistry with woman, so why not fulfill the need to belong when its possible..
But then again, I have not build up this negative feelings and emotions attached to the opposite sex as some of you have. Anyways I'd say keep an open mind for marriage and you might just find you're dream girl...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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When I do I will have a fat pre nup that's for sure! And if she doesn't like it she can go to hell.
if you marry an american female i will pray for you. go ahead and call me a loser for not wanting to pamper and chase down one, but i would rather be a monk than go through the hell that most of you are going through now. once you find one, convince her and her friends that you are not too much of a loser, spend money and loads of time on her, and listen to her stories of her past lovers the real fun begins - marriage! i won't even touch upon the fat issue, the age issue, or the lack of style and grace.
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Only a virgin is worthy of marriage!!!!! Otherwise overwhelming failure will be the result!!!
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Last Man Standing said:Only a virgin is worthy of marriage!!!!! Otherwise overwhelming failure will be the result!!!
Good luck with that. No wonder you aren't married.
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It is better that you throw a millstone (a very heavy grinding stone) around your neck and throw yourself into the sea, than marry a hor!!!!My Name is Nobody said:Good luck with that. No wonder you aren't married.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Last Man Standing said:It is better that you throw a millstone (a very heavy grinding stone) around your neck and throw yourself into the sea, than marry a hor!!!!
So you are saying that any woman that is not a virgin is a wh0re?
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I don't think I could ever trust a ho enough to marry her. Not because im insecrue just cause they the devil. Im young yet and never felt like I was in ''love'' with a girl before and made a chump outta myself but Im sure it'll happen at some stage. We all make mistakes. I'd prefer to be a bachler at 60 years old tryna pick up hot young chicks then a 60 year old man married to a granny cause I doubt they suddenly become attractive when you're old yourself.
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WRONG!! Wives are not virgins!! Are they hors?My Name is Nobody said:So you are saying that any woman that is not a virgin is a wh0re?
It is the same definition as the last million years - a hor is one who is getting pounced by one or two or fifty who are NOT her husband!!! Simple, very simple!!
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Last Man Standing said:WRONG!! Wives are not virgins!! Are they hors?
It is the same definition as the last million years - a hor is one who is getting pounced by one or two or fifty who are NOT her husband!!! Simple, very simple!!
But you just said that any woman you marry who is NOT a virgin is a "hor". You don't back up your statement?
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Yes, you married a hor!! But she cannot be a hor for submitting to her husband!!My Name is Nobody said:But you just said that any woman you marry who is NOT a virgin is a "hor". You don't back up your statement?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Last Man Standing said:Yes, you married a hor!! But she cannot be a hor for submitting to her husband!!
I'm not married. And you said she is already a wh0re if the woman is not a virgin when you marry her. So if she is ALREADY a wh0re (*like you said) how can she not be a hor just because she fukked her husband?
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is this site about getting married or dating?.....seems like all the guys here whimpy and want LTR. why? you would think a site called don juan would have more backbone. I think men in poverty are the ones that want to get married. I can't imagine a guy with money in his pocket would want the pain of a wife
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This site is about NASCAR. What the hell are you smoking?
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the kind