"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Will she text back?Did I text properly?

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I met a woman the other night from a dating site and we had sex on the first date!She had an orgasm and she said"wow I never had one like that before"I thought things went well and we seemed to have similar interest!

I went home that night and texted her this the next day at 10am"Hey girl!I had a great time last night!If you would like to get together again Let me know what your schedule is like!I'm pretty flexible!"

She replied at 5:15 "I had a good time too and busy the next couple days but will let you know.Hope you had a good day!"

I replied at 6.03 "Thank you!I did have a great day!I hope yours was great too!Just let me know when your available!"

That was Wednesday and its Saturday and I haven't heard anything back and I didn't text her back.I thought waiting for her to respond would be the best thing to do and I figured that I would wait it out and I have so far.I'll admit I want to see her again and If I dont it will suck!

Will she text back?Any opinions appreciated!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I met a woman the other night from a dating site and we had sex on the first date!She had an orgasm and she said"wow I never had one like that before"I thought things went well and we seemed to have similar interest!

I went home that night and texted her this the next day at 10am"Hey girl!I had a great time last night!If you would like to get together again Let me know what your schedule is like!I'm pretty flexible!"

She replied at 5:15 "I had a good time too and busy the next couple days but will let you know.Hope you had a good day!"

I replied at 6.03 "Thank you!I did have a great day!I hope yours was great too!Just let me know when your available!"

That was Wednesday and its Saturday and I haven't heard anything back and I didn't text her back.I thought waiting for her to respond would be the best thing to do and I figured that I would wait it out and I have so far.I'll admit I want to see her again and If I dont it will suck!

Will she text back?Any opinions appreciated!
you seemed to eager with the 2nd text by asking her again to let you know when she will be free
 
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Yes play it a little cooler. Far too eager. The balls in her court. Dont text her again unless she texts you.

In the meantime, arrange dates with other women.

Focus on one and you will have none. Talk to plenty and you will have many. Cheesy but true.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Less exclamation points (!). Comes off as too eager and excited, like you haven’t been laid in a long time and now you finally got laid and you are about to wife her up if she fvcked you again.

I recently had a girl that seemed interested but blew me off and cancelled the day of our date. She claimed she was sick and could still go but “wouldn’t be herself”. She suggested two days later or “one day next week definitely”. She used a lot of exclamation points. Here was basically my response.

“Take care of yourself, hope you feel better.”

that was it. Didn’t mention a thing about her rescheduling or anything else.
 

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Look at it this way, a little eager yes. But by now she knows this guy that clearly likes her, was good in the sack, is not a textaholic. She'll call, and when she does, don't jump through hoops. I think the man-card is still good.
 

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I met a woman the other night from a dating site and we had sex on the first date!She had an orgasm and she said"wow I never had one like that before"I thought things went well and we seemed to have similar interest!

I went home that night and texted her this the next day at 10am"Hey girl!I had a great time last night!If you would like to get together again Let me know what your schedule is like!I'm pretty flexible!"

She replied at 5:15 "I had a good time too and busy the next couple days but will let you know.Hope you had a good day!"

I replied at 6.03 "Thank you!I did have a great day!I hope yours was great too!Just let me know when your available!"

That was Wednesday and its Saturday and I haven't heard anything back and I didn't text her back.I thought waiting for her to respond would be the best thing to do and I figured that I would wait it out and I have so far.I'll admit I want to see her again and If I dont it will suck!

Will she text back?Any opinions appreciated!
Leave it a week or two. You'll probably scare her away if you come on too strong and appear clingy. Sounds like she just wants sex, not a relationship.
 
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Look at it this way, a little eager yes. But by now she knows this guy that clearly likes her, was good in the sack, is not a textaholic. She'll call, and when she does, don't jump through hoops. I think the man-card is still good.
Thanks for the positive vibe.I hope your right and I won't text until I hear from her!
 

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I met a woman the other night from a dating site and we had sex on the first date!She had an orgasm and she said"wow I never had one like that before"I thought things went well and we seemed to have similar interest!

I went home that night and texted her this the next day at 10am"Hey girl!I had a great time last night!If you would like to get together again Let me know what your schedule is like!I'm pretty flexible!"

She replied at 5:15 "I had a good time too and busy the next couple days but will let you know.Hope you had a good day!"

I replied at 6.03 "Thank you!I did have a great day!I hope yours was great too!Just let me know when your available!"

That was Wednesday and its Saturday and I haven't heard anything back and I didn't text her back.I thought waiting for her to respond would be the best thing to do and I figured that I would wait it out and I have so far.I'll admit I want to see her again and If I dont it will suck!

Will she text back?Any opinions appreciated!
Sex on first date, met online...?= typically low value, trash type of woman........
I am surprised you are texting her at all......
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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maybe she is waiting for you to text, show some interest and chase a little. I banged a chick last week Wednesday, i know she liked me but i never texted her after sex and she never contacted me again either. Kinda figured after a few days she would reach out but she didnt. I dont want to see her again so i dont care but seems like you want to see this one again. I think maybe they hold back to see if they were more than just a pump and dump maybe? Not sure i agree with just waiting on her to make the next move.
 

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I met a woman the other night from a dating site and we had sex on the first date!She had an orgasm and she said"wow I never had one like that before"I thought things went well and we seemed to have similar interest!

I went home that night and texted her this the next day at 10am"Hey girl!I had a great time last night!If you would like to get together again Let me know what your schedule is like!I'm pretty flexible!"

She replied at 5:15 "I had a good time too and busy the next couple days but will let you know.Hope you had a good day!"

I replied at 6.03 "Thank you!I did have a great day!I hope yours was great too!Just let me know when your available!"

That was Wednesday and its Saturday and I haven't heard anything back and I didn't text her back.I thought waiting for her to respond would be the best thing to do and I figured that I would wait it out and I have so far.I'll admit I want to see her again and If I dont it will suck!

Will she text back?Any opinions appreciated!
You seemed pretty desperate with your texts. I would be surprised if she did. How a man acts after sex shows a lot.

She should have been texting you first.
 
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You seemed pretty desperate with your texts. I would be surprised if she did. How a man acts after sex shows a lot.

She should have been texting you first.
I think you may be right!I haven't heard a word!I guess anything text should really be thought out first!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Will she text back?Did I text properly?
Why is this even a question? :eek:
You should not spend anytime at all wondering if a girl text you back or answer a message left on voice mail etc. or whatever.

The only thing you should do is not to give a fuaark.

Spin a plate and then start spinning next....
 

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Sex on the first date is a red flag to me. She probably used you as a rebound or an ego boost

Regardless. The ball is in her court. Do nothing.
people here complain a lot about women not wanting to sleep with them fast and that they would brake this rule for chads .

then when a woman sleeps with them fast they consider it a red flag

This 2 ways of thinking contradict themselves , especially since the same guys say both of them depending on the context
 

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Thank you, lol. I swear some men have worse hamsters than women.
I get it that some guys here had really bad experiences with women , but in the same time it seems that people are more interested in being butt hurt rather than to actually move on .

like I said a lot of times ,women are as they are and this is why you should not take them seriously in the first place .

in the moment you start not taking them seriously anymore , you will see also how your success with the ladies will increase drastically
 
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I get it that some guys here had really bad experiences with women , but in the same time it seems that people are more interested in being butt hurt rather than to actually move on .

like I said a lot of times ,women are as they are and this is why you should not take them seriously in the first place .

in the moment you start not taking them seriously anymore , you will see also how your success with the ladies will increase drastically
I agree that I shouldn't have invested mentally so much.I still haven't heard back.I GUESS SHE IS GONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!NEXT!!!!!!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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