"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Will I ever achieve my dream of being a DJ? Not in this lifetime.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Viper
Banned
Hell yeah, hot girls that play music, I love music, I love playing music, I like the songs we play, I like marching, yes I do like band.
You played French Horn? That's a sissy instrument. lol. Well not really, but here in Kentucky, the only french horns I know, are all sissies. lol. They are gay, but I guess you wouldn't be gay, if you are a DJ.
I played baritone, and we were the manly section. I never became that high a chair, though I was the best. lol. I didn't have enough confidence at the time, to score a really high chair.
I was in band, and we only had like 40 people, then I moved. Now we have 20, and I still go on band competitions, and I know I can pull any chick in my band, of course we only have like 20 - 30 people, and I am not sure really of the amount, but we are really small.
Seriously, band is the reason I am the DJ that I am. Such confidence. Just stick it through, and start hanging out with your section more. Become really good friends with all of them.
familyguyfan
Master Don Juan
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Quit giving us all this BS about you not having time for any of the stuff we tell you to do. In your original post, you yourself admit that when you're not in school or at band, you sit on your ass at home all day. Why don't you use all that wasted time and actually get up and do some of the things we tell you.
How do you know those kids wouldn't be interested in doing anything if you don't ask them. It's worth a shot. You have nowhere to go but up.
Girl friends are fine, but here us when we say that GUY FRIENDS ARE MUCH MORE IMPORTANT AND VALUABLE! Doesn't matter who you are. It's true for all guys except gay ones.
And you can't keep doubting yourself about your personality. Every teen questions their place in life, but don't go telling yourself you're a boring person. If you think you're boring then other people will definitely think you're boring. Prove to them, and yourself that you aren't boring, and are fun.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I have nothing else to say here for now. Take my advice and do it.
Free choice is the power...you have shackles on yourself and you have the key..
Viper
Banned
Well, I do have guy friends, but while they cheer me on and say "What's up" to me, I can tell they don't think of me as one of the guys. Well, school's back again tommorow guys and I'm going to try some of this stuff out. My goal is going to be to atleast approach 20 chicks, no numbers because I don't really expect the convos to great, nor for them to really become interested in me, but I'm going to approach them. There are a couple of girls in band(Which is first period everyday) I have in mind already, this girl named jaquie, really hot blonde girl, this girl named Roxanne, who I've already talked about and this short girl named Jill, she's a senior, average looks and body. I really hate doing this, but yes, I'm going to do it, I know the conversations will suck and I'll look like a real geek, but I'm going to take it like a man. I expect most of them to go like this:
As you can see, I'm very bad at building rapport, building connections with people.
Also, can you guys analyze why this girl seemed freaked out when I approached her? This approach from a good year ago, but I'm still wondering:
I might get rejected alot tommorow, I might look like a dumbass tommorow infront of an HB 9, but I don't care, because if anything, it will be a good learning experience.
Watch out ladies, because tommorow, the Mike man aint takin' **** from nobody, not even HB9's.
I think the girl in that convo felt kind awkward cus "you gotta name?" is not something you hear everyday (at least I don't). It sounds kinda...iono...corny. Just ask her what her name is and ask her how she's doin and stuff.
Also, I don't hear "I don't believe we've met yet" alot. Maybe it's different over there in Ohio, but you might wanna consider reading up on "teenage language". Saying things so proper makes you seem like an old man
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Viper
Banned
Yeah, I'll come back to tommorow and tell you how I approached a girl, got her name, then said "Well, see ya later", because I couldn't think of anything else to talk about after I got her name. Oh yeah and this school is also full of chicks who will act nice to you when you approach them and then talk **** about how "Hah, did that loser really think he could get me?" with their friends, but I won't let that bring me down.
Viper
Banned
Definitely trying this out.
Also, if I get a good convo started and a girl straight bores me with her one word answers, I'm just flat out saying "I'm sorry girl, but I'm not going to lie to you, but you are one of the most boring girls I've ever met.".
Viper
Banned
Hah, now there's a proper way to introduce yourself? I just want to introduce myself, how I say it shouldn't matter.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16186
This is actually the first one that I read, that I thought, "Mike could really use that information."
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16903
Be a Man!!! Obviously you need to read this one. It's a life saver.
And read everything in the conversation section. I am glad that I picked up my copy of the family bible, because now that I am a DJ, I am applying some tactics, just for the hell of it.
Remember, I used to be in the same exact position as you.
I mean I had friends that were like, "Hey, what's up?", but then I would go back to being left out, and kind of a tag along, that wasn't really contributing.
Contribute to your possy. Bring something special to the group. I brought my knowledge of Final Fantasy, Computers, and Martial Arts, to the group. I was respected, and valued as a member.
Especially focus on that first article. It is just what you need.
I'll say this though: saying "I'm sorry girl, but I'm not going to lie to you, but you are one of the most boring girls I've ever met" is not a good idea if you have a "loser" reputation at school. They'll just think you're being mean
Viper
Banned
I know a couple of soccer players that have to sometime miss games because of practice, football players that are in band and football that have to come out during half time show and play in their uniform, don't know about the rest of them.Originally posted by arutha
Umm... The others manage sports and stuff as well as the band so they can't do band on weekend with you, but you somehow can't fit extra stuff in?
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.