SgtSplacker
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Just curious what the consensus is. I think the answer is no...
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Agreed. Game is #1, everything else is secondary and can be worked on.PrettyBoyAJ said:Game trumps all. Yes.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Wishful thinking. If game did trump all, every man on this forum who tried the tips here would have no problems with women. Game can only get you so far. Personality can too. I dated a older woman who makes 6 figures. She's in a brand new hummer, and I'm in a Pontiac. That experience I had was proof that game is not a be all end all. If you're either physically or financially attractive, you're good. She'd still be talking to me if I looked like I bench press 400 pounds and pulled up in a Mercedes.PrettyBoyAJ said:Game trumps all. Yes.
True. You don't need to be rich if you are extremely handsome OR extremely famous.Who Dares Win said:That same woman doctor would date an extreme sport champion sponsored (who earned less than her)
Sorry nismo, disagree with above too. You can be the richest guy but if you are boring, the girl won't care about you. I've been out with FHM models who knew I had some money, but I had no game at the time, so they said no to a second date.nismo-4 said:Wishful thinking. If game did trump all, every man on this forum who tried the tips here would have no problems with women. Game can only get you so far. Personality can too. I dated a older woman who makes 6 figures. She's in a brand new hummer, and I'm in a Pontiac. That experience I had was proof that game is not a be all end all. If you're either physically or financially attractive, you're good. She'd still be talking to me if I looked like I bench press 400 pounds and pulled up in a Mercedes.
Has your game ever made you any more physically attractive to a woman as opposed to your muscles? I think not. Game can't cover up flab, scars, and fat. Sorry.
Has your game ever made you any more financially attractive in a woman's eyes? I think not. It can't beat an Armani Suit or a Rolex or a Maserati.
Yes it can. I have 2 friends who have never worked out in their lives. One is 200lbs the other is 5'5 and 205lbs. Neither has much money, are cheap, and buy very cheap clothes but dress nicely, and both are married to good looking women who are both pregnant now.
To answer the question, she'll date such a man, but she'll hold most of the cards unless you're very handsome.
Also, persistance, goals, dreams, and ambitions help in the FUTURE, but girls want what you have in the PRESENT (THE NOW!)
Case closed.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Gee, I wish I was your unemployed friend who buys respect with the actions of an unemployed man with no career path.AAAgent said:Yes and game trumps all.
@bigneil: money doesn't buy respect, actions do. My friend strings along 3-4 girls at a time before when he was a casino gambler, waiter, etc. He was dating pharmacists, nurses, managers, etc. It's all about maintaining the frame. He doesn't bring any of his problems into any of his relationships, no matter how much debt he has or can't make rent. He will just tell his girls, they can't come over but he can go over theirs, if not then oh well.
Not having money or looks just makes it harder to get noticed as a man, but persistence always pays off if your smart.
Im really sorry Neil, but Ive read with amazement some of your trifles with `pay as you go` women, and also some of your words of `wisdom` on the finer points of womanising and realize that you dont know what your talking about!bigneil said:Gee, I wish I was your unemployed friend who buys respect with the actions of an unemployed man with no career path.
The more you earn, the more attractive you are, and it's a lot harder to earn more than it is to be pretty or "have game". So stop looking for short cuts. If you're unemployed and unattractive, you need to get improved, not get game.
Also, women aren't the ultimate fulfillment, they are the prize in the game of life. To win you must fulfill your maximum potential, which means being a man on a mission and working hard for 20+ years, and being fortunate and to some degree lucky.
I think Neil is sort of implying to be better than that. Don't be the guy who spends all his time sleeping with women while neglecting a career or earning money. Be the guy who has both a CAREER and WOMEN, which is much better than living paycheck to paycheck.TonyBaloney said:There are so many men out there who are on low incomes, are criminals, plain dumb, or are just good in bed with nothing else to recommend them...... this last point I think you'll find is far more important to a woman than money..... atke it from me. Ive never had money, but ive ALWAYS had women......
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.