"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Wild & chaotic women

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Considering advice given in various places about avoiding wild chaotic women, what do you guys think of this piece of writing by David Deida -

"By understanding their own needs, men can learn to accept the "whole package" of a woman. For instance, a more masculine man can expect that any woman who really turns him on and enlivens him will also be relatively wild, undisciplined, "bonkers," chaotic, prone to changing her mind and "lying." Still, from an energetic perspective, this kind of woman will be much more healing and inspiring to him than a more balanced or neutral woman who is steady, reasonable, "trustworthy," and able to say what she means in a way he can understand."
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I think it depends on whether you have the constant energy to be wild and chaotic with them.
 

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Way of the superior man, great book by the way. It is based on concept that each person has some parts of masculine and feminine mind. So in theory if you are , lets say 80:20 masculine feminine, then the ideal partner would have 20:80 ratio so that the energy is balanced. That way we are ''full'' .
 

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What are your needs?
Well, my main goal was to find the right woman & start a family, but now i'm not as driven to have a family. I've been with my GF for over year. I think i'm going to end the relationship soon. I think i'll then spin plates & my main goal will be to enjoy MY life...if I meet the right girl then so be it.
I still have a lot to learn. This relationship has been my first for a long time.

My needs? I really like my GF & have given her time to see what happens.
Does any man know or get what he thinks he needs? One might go looking for what he needs & finds something different that he loves. I'll look & see what I find.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I agree with what the OP's said. Wild and chaotic girls are the ones who really get me interested. Not wild like party all the time, doing really stupid ****, but that will crack jokes, take risks, aren't afraid to piss people off etc. Girls who are confident enough and have goals and the ability to do things for themselves and don't need a man are attractive to me, they are hard to pin down but being with them makes me feel alive at times, its also like crack in that in the long run it will usually end really bad for you, but you can't stop taking that hit.
 
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