"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Wild & chaotic women

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Considering advice given in various places about avoiding wild chaotic women, what do you guys think of this piece of writing by David Deida -

"By understanding their own needs, men can learn to accept the "whole package" of a woman. For instance, a more masculine man can expect that any woman who really turns him on and enlivens him will also be relatively wild, undisciplined, "bonkers," chaotic, prone to changing her mind and "lying." Still, from an energetic perspective, this kind of woman will be much more healing and inspiring to him than a more balanced or neutral woman who is steady, reasonable, "trustworthy," and able to say what she means in a way he can understand."
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think it depends on whether you have the constant energy to be wild and chaotic with them.
 
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Way of the superior man, great book by the way. It is based on concept that each person has some parts of masculine and feminine mind. So in theory if you are , lets say 80:20 masculine feminine, then the ideal partner would have 20:80 ratio so that the energy is balanced. That way we are ''full'' .
 
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Glumix said:
What are your needs?
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Well, my main goal was to find the right woman & start a family, but now i'm not as driven to have a family. I've been with my GF for over year. I think i'm going to end the relationship soon. I think i'll then spin plates & my main goal will be to enjoy MY life...if I meet the right girl then so be it.
I still have a lot to learn. This relationship has been my first for a long time.

My needs? I really like my GF & have given her time to see what happens.
Does any man know or get what he thinks he needs? One might go looking for what he needs & finds something different that he loves. I'll look & see what I find.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I agree with what the OP's said. Wild and chaotic girls are the ones who really get me interested. Not wild like party all the time, doing really stupid ****, but that will crack jokes, take risks, aren't afraid to piss people off etc. Girls who are confident enough and have goals and the ability to do things for themselves and don't need a man are attractive to me, they are hard to pin down but being with them makes me feel alive at times, its also like crack in that in the long run it will usually end really bad for you, but you can't stop taking that hit.
 
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