"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why women love it when you don't give a FU*K
- Thread starter El Payaso
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
8/10 capitalising on already common knowledge on the internet. If she was a 6/10, she wouldn't make any money.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
I haven't had a full nights sleep in 26 days, only short 5 to 10 min. naps. Feels like I'm on drugs or something.
Also, girls just want to have fun!!! Having a good time, is a priority for them!
Try Valerian root.
KingBeef
Master Don Juan
I didn't know for sure if you were referring to the presenter of the video or the message but I'll answer both.
I've actually seen about 10 of her videos on YouTube and her advice, for the most part is pretty good and refreshing from a logical woman's standpoint (it's basic solid/entry level DJ advice re-branded with her touch, not from a Cosmo/woman's standpoint).
As far as the presenter, I wouldn't doubt for a moment that her research would consist of sites like this that appeal to logical men. Also, to agree with Phillies....if she was a 6 out of 10 maybe i'd come back to her but since she's an 8 with lovely knockers I'd probably give her a second look. She knows what she's doing.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Yeah, or melotonin. Those work great for people in normal situations.
marmel75
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 4, 2012
- Messages
- 7,175
- Reaction score
- 5,571
The question was why I viewed his behavior as Beta---basically he spent a lot of money on her dinner/flowers/etc on First Date--my response:
No I think he's beta because is is trying to spend tons of money on you right off the bat without knowing if you are even worth it. Whether he is intending to or not, he is showing "provider" behavior whereas a more dominant, alpha type man would take her out for a drink, or somewhere that was no or low cost and exhibit "sexual" behavior and make the woman work hard for you to exhibit "provider" behavior. In effect, his exhibiting "provider" behavior immediately gives you the power in the relationship, shows he believes you are of higher value than he is and that he needs to "win you over" whether he actively is thinking this or not, and leads to you making HIM work hard for "sexual" behavior in response.
Basically what I am saying is he ceded power to you early the relationship setting him up to work hard to get what he ultimately wanted(sex), instead of keeping power and setting YOU up to work hard for what you wanted but only after he had already gotten what he wanted(sex). Women instinctively view that as "manly" behavior and what he did as "unmanly" behavior, again, not always on a conscious level but on a more base, instinctive level.
This is why women love "bad boys", because the bad boy takes what he wants but makes the woman work hard to get what they want. It says "I'm of higher value than you, and you'll get what you want when I decide you are worth it". Psychologically anything that a person has to work hard for and is not just handed to them is viewed as being more valuable. When a beta gives first and then is dependent on the woman to "give" back they end up in the role of supplicator, chaser, and are viewed as being of much lower value because the woman had to do no work to receive anything of value. That which is readily available has less value, that which is rare has more value. No different than Supply and Demand in economics...it's why Iron is worth very little and why gold and platinum are worth a lot...they are rare and harder to get.
Does that make any more sense?
Magnesium citrate, it'll make you sleep.
Dhoulmagus
Banned
- Joined
- Sep 11, 2013
- Messages
- 1,695
- Reaction score
- 169
marmel75
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 4, 2012
- Messages
- 7,175
- Reaction score
- 5,571
Keep trying to make yourself believe that. In your fantasyland it might be true.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
HeadLightsOn
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Sep 17, 2011
- Messages
- 419
- Reaction score
- 78
- This doesn't take into account the approach part. Opening on a woman that you want to have this attitude with still requires subtleties in your approach, to ensure you are set up to use the 'I don't give a fvk' method.
- You can't change over to the more keen or (ugh), needy type of guy. Once you've set your frame with this method, I believe you have to stick with it. I've kept this frame for several years in a former relationship and it worked flawlessly.
- I am usually prepared to play a longer game if I use this. I'm doing this right now in fact. After two months of back and forth, this particular female is virtually screaming for me to get hands on. Not yet though - I've got more torturing to do before I touch down
- I also think some guys can get hung up on their looks/physicality etc. Of course I think personal hygiene, correct grooming and relevant dress code are important. But what's really important as a guy, is what Marmel mentions above - you must indicate that your value is higher than hers. That if she is lucky, she may get the chance to get to know you better.
- If your methods don't have success on a particular woman - move on. Then again, if the former girl sees that you're having success with another female, her pouch is going to foam and she'll probably want your attention again.
Ah, this stuff is just so much fun!
Dhoulmagus
Banned
- Joined
- Sep 11, 2013
- Messages
- 1,695
- Reaction score
- 169
The only type of girls I've seen fall for that ****
marmel75
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 4, 2012
- Messages
- 7,175
- Reaction score
- 5,571
Probably because you are too busy whining, complaining about women and why you can't get them, and generally carrying on with your negative attitude that clouds your view.
I said 'I know' and then told her I had to run.
Let those hamsters run free ;-)
Dhoulmagus
Banned
- Joined
- Sep 11, 2013
- Messages
- 1,695
- Reaction score
- 169
I had sex last night
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
marmel75
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 4, 2012
- Messages
- 7,175
- Reaction score
- 5,571
Good, maybe it will help change your negativity that drags the board down.I had sex last night
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Funny thing is... I kind of like not sleeping. Naps work great for now. When I finally get a stable place to stay, I'm sure sleep will happen.
Dude, haven't you seen fight club?
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
I have seen clips of it, a long time ago.
Dhoulmagus
Banned
- Joined
- Sep 11, 2013
- Messages
- 1,695
- Reaction score
- 169
Idk how I could single handily bring down a board?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.