I know this is cringe AF when people say this, but like everything, there is an evolutionary reason.
As we evolved, men were absolutely integral to womens survival. Women are absolutely integral to the survival of the species.
Division of labour meant we were off building things and hunting. Women were all at home in a camp with the kids.
the best route to survival was to influence men sufficiently so they received the best resources. That’s how the female game worked.
it’s the same reason men do not respect men on the basis that they married a rich woman. Women on the other hand seem to have the most respect for women who snagged a powerful man. Michelle Obama etc, you look at womens mags and this is the main interest. Of course, gaining the keys to power without actually having to work, at all, is the most respected among women. It’s not female entrepreneurs on these pages.
It’s not just about snagging the man.That’s no use if you don’t get the resources and the use of that power. Being able to be the dominant person in that relationship is key.
Therefore most women NEVER stop trying to win the power struggle. They won’t meet you half way. The ONLY way you do this is by walking. They don’t understand equity. Someone has to be in control.
I’ve got to this point twice with my 5 year relationship wife. I started packing my bags, as soon as I did and she realised I was serious, she acted almost like a kid when dad is pushed too far and he gets the belt off. By the time I reached the door, she didn’t exactly apologise but it was clear she didn’t want me to go. Despite threatening to leave like 5 mins before.
It’s a depressing thought as a man, you really hoped you had a woman who was on your side, on your team, and you realise it’s more like an employer, or a business. She generally has no scruples walking all over you, no guilt.
however, let’s be fair, you’re on a work trip, a cute blonde wants it, you hit it. Generally we can do this without that much guilt. It’s burned into us to do it. That’s the same as they are with manipulating a man. It’s not personal, it’s what they do.
See, the thing is, the reason they do it is because you are the authority. A lot of my arguments have her saying the phrase “you won’t let me do x,y and z”. If you say no, it’s accepted. That’s why they scheme, they can’t do it upfront because most of us give less than 2 fks saying no.
As I age, the hardest part of knowledge of human nature is that really, it’s just you. Friends let you down, they talk, most don’t want you doing too well. They want you when it suits them. Business contacts, even more so. Evenwives and GF, they want a piece. The only people who actually are in your corner often are your parents. Bit of a negative view I know, but I can count on one hand the decent people I’ve met in my life. Sadly one of them is dead!
The whole world is a power struggle, and women have the added issue of being extremely self centred, and unable to negotiate. It’s either her way or nothing generally.
i kind of conceptualise a lot of women like grifters. They often will do or say anything when it’s needed.