"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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why? lol

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I see people talking pretty loud and yea. But how come when i start talking everything becomes quiet and everyone turns to me and it just bugs me lol. I dont look like a nerd or geek or whatever at all. I actually have girls that like me and i talk to them. I just think its because since i have been a shy and quiet person ever since 4th grade. Also i have some classes that are really boring, and i just dont talk because i dont feel like talking, but people just say why am i so quiet.

Any help?

THANKS:D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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haha wow noobs

this is a good thing man, chicks perceive this as power. when you say something and everyone shuts up and listens, its because they want to hear what you have to say, not cause they think ur weird
 
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Originally posted by Mr. Debonaire
haha wow noobs

this is a good thing man, chicks perceive this as power. when you say something and everyone shuts up and listens, its because they want to hear what you have to say, not cause they think ur weird
really? wtf why do they laugh then:confused:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Snap87
I just think its because since i have been a shy and quiet person ever since 4th grade.
I think because you have the reputation as being quiet, people are a bit surprised when you talk, because it is so unlike you.

I've seen it happen to others before, and I think it might have happened to me in the past. Like you, I was naturally a very quiet person, but over the last 2 years or so, I really started talking more. Sometimes I get annoyed when I am talking to someone instead of with them, and they say nothing back! Which is ironic because I used to be one of those people!

Don't worry, keep on talking and eventually everyone will get used to the 'new' talkative you. :)
 

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Yes, ur right, i have the reputation of being a quiet person. Thanks ill keep talking.
 

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Don't talk for the sake of hearing your own voice...

Just be yourself.
 

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A few good tips:

The more words that flow from your mouth, the less value each one has.

This does not mean to be a pvssy and stfu. When you have an opinion, state it. If you don't really care much for anything and are just talking to "please others" or breathe hot air on someone else, don't do it.

Thing is, if you're quiet, you're kind of got an upper hand if you handle it correctly. How? Whenever you DO talk, make yourself known and say it loud and proud like you know your stuff. Then people will be like, "damn, that guy's just got the right stuff bottled up."

However, it is good to speak up sometimes in classes and such just to get people to recognize you and get on good relations \with your teacher.
 
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