"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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why? lol

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I see people talking pretty loud and yea. But how come when i start talking everything becomes quiet and everyone turns to me and it just bugs me lol. I dont look like a nerd or geek or whatever at all. I actually have girls that like me and i talk to them. I just think its because since i have been a shy and quiet person ever since 4th grade. Also i have some classes that are really boring, and i just dont talk because i dont feel like talking, but people just say why am i so quiet.

Any help?

THANKS:D
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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haha wow noobs

this is a good thing man, chicks perceive this as power. when you say something and everyone shuts up and listens, its because they want to hear what you have to say, not cause they think ur weird
 
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Originally posted by Mr. Debonaire
haha wow noobs

this is a good thing man, chicks perceive this as power. when you say something and everyone shuts up and listens, its because they want to hear what you have to say, not cause they think ur weird
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really? wtf why do they laugh then:confused:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Snap87
I just think its because since i have been a shy and quiet person ever since 4th grade.
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I think because you have the reputation as being quiet, people are a bit surprised when you talk, because it is so unlike you.

I've seen it happen to others before, and I think it might have happened to me in the past. Like you, I was naturally a very quiet person, but over the last 2 years or so, I really started talking more. Sometimes I get annoyed when I am talking to someone instead of with them, and they say nothing back! Which is ironic because I used to be one of those people!

Don't worry, keep on talking and eventually everyone will get used to the 'new' talkative you. :)
 
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Yes, ur right, i have the reputation of being a quiet person. Thanks ill keep talking.
 
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Don't talk for the sake of hearing your own voice...

Just be yourself.
 
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A few good tips:

The more words that flow from your mouth, the less value each one has.

This does not mean to be a pvssy and stfu. When you have an opinion, state it. If you don't really care much for anything and are just talking to "please others" or breathe hot air on someone else, don't do it.

Thing is, if you're quiet, you're kind of got an upper hand if you handle it correctly. How? Whenever you DO talk, make yourself known and say it loud and proud like you know your stuff. Then people will be like, "damn, that guy's just got the right stuff bottled up."

However, it is good to speak up sometimes in classes and such just to get people to recognize you and get on good relations \with your teacher.
 
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