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Why it’s cheaper to pay a lady of the night, rather than waste your time and money trying to “pick up” women in bars and nightclubs.

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what do you mean if I drink alcohol with a woman? Don’t we all? Lol

Ehh, I would probably have better health if I ate more healthy and didn’t drink regularly. But that wholesome life is boring to me.
Oh right....I drank something with my ex wife during our wedding reception. Checkmark.
 

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Yes, OP is true for a one off scenario. Although it must be said that nightclubs are a bad way to meet and seduce women.

Also, escort is a single-transaction service. If you seduce a girl, there is already potential for some emotional investment on her end. That can lead to reoccurring sex and other benefits.
This! This is one reason Chads would choose an escort. One & done. No baggage. No risk of a phone call to wife/gf.
 

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Men would do a hot young escort if they didnt know she was one.
Men would do a hot young single mother if they didn’t know she was one.
Men would do a hot young divorced women if they didn’t know she was one.

Once they ”know” the hot girl‘s situation, if good they remain turned on, if not good they get turned off.

It’s all mental.
 

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Men would do a hot young escort if they didnt know she was one.
Men would do a hot young single mother if they didn’t know she was one.
Men would do a hot young divorced women if they didn’t know she was one.

Once they ”know” the hot girl‘s situation, if good they remain turned on, if not good they get turned off.

It’s all mental.
What about if she was an ex-con that killed the last guy she dealt with?
 

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If you do a cost to benefit analysis, it’s actually cheaper to just pay a hooker for sex, rather than waste your time and money trying to pick up a woman in a bar, or nightclub.

Think about it logically, when you factor in the cost of nightclub entry fees, alcohol, food and taxi/Uber fares, it’s cheaper to pay for it, plus the sex with a hooker will be better (if she knows what she is doing).

You know it makes sense.
I can hit a club with no cover, buy two drinks, drive my own car, and have a good time for around $30 tops. If I pick up a girl cool if I don’t it’s also cool with me. I’m also out with my boys to have a good time.

I would rather not pay for a hooker. I like to feel that I’m dominating a woman during sex and I wouldn’t feel like that if she’s only screwing me cause I’m paying her.
 

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Facepalm. Seriously. I know personally that @Knight of Roses is legit in the STEM fields, frankly as am I and my guy. So what?

When you sort out what appeals to you & figure out how to attract it?

Well you have the secret sauce my friend, Trust me.

Cheers
 

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I would rather not pay for a hooker. I like to feel that I’m dominating a woman during sex and I wouldn’t feel like that if she’s only screwing me cause I’m paying her.
If she's with you then she's risking her life to be with you, a total stranger, and if that doesn't feel dominating, then I don't know what does. That shows a very high degree of trust, even if you are saying you are "paying her". Money is just a form of communication. The Supreme Court of the USA has maintained that corporations have a right to free speech by bribing politicians to meet their agenda. When I'm paid a prositute (ie ancient history, I'm talking about that one time in 2014), I was communicating with her in the same manner that corporations communicate with politicians to suit their agenda. The act of intimacy was a consummation of that exchange of value, unspoken communcation and trust and sacred bond between the exchange of money and expectations of her.

Then I realized I made a mistake as that logic is completely wrong. This may have been why I experience severe anxiety/panic attacks after the fact if I really thought that way. If you feel you have too much power in a specific dynamic, then you could end up with pyschosomatic symptoms to compensate for the imbalance. There was a perception of having too much power over a woman in contrast to what is in my normal frame of reference of reality and the differential is too extreme.

Yet, you don't think so, which is why you probably won't be affected like that.
 
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Dude, that’s some Olympic level shyte right there…the amount mental masturbation that took is epic. IMG_4501.jpeg
If she's with you then she's risking her life to be with you, a total stranger, and if that doesn't feel dominating, then I don't know what does. That shows a very high degree of trust, even if you are saying you are "paying her". Money is just a form of communication. The Supreme Court of the USA has maintained that corporations have a right to free speech by bribing politicians to meet their agenda. When I'm paid a prositute (ie ancient history, I'm talking about that one time in 2014), I was communicating with her in the same manner that corporations communicate with politicians to suit their agenda. The act of intimacy was a consummation of that exchange of value, unspoken communcation and trust and sacred bond between the exchange of money and expectations of her.

Then I realized I made a mistake as that logic is completely wrong. This may have been why I experience severe anxiety/panic attacks after the fact if I really thought that way. If you feel you have too much power in a specific dynamic, then you could end up with pyschosomatic symptoms to compensate for the imbalance. There was a perception of having too much power over a woman in contrast to what is in my normal frame of reference of reality and the differential is too extreme.

Yet, you don't think so, which is why you probably won't be affected like that.
 

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Men would do a hot young escort if they didnt know she was one.
Men would do a hot young single mother if they didn’t know she was one.
Men would do a hot young divorced women if they didn’t know she was one.

Once they ”know” the hot girl‘s situation, if good they remain turned on, if not good they get turned off.

It’s all mental.
There is no problem with a childless divorced woman, other than she has shown that marriage vows aren't as important as they should be.
 

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There is no problem with a childless divorced woman, other than she has shown that marriage vows aren't as important as they should be.
A childless divorced woman isn't a big problem for most men. Single motherhood is a bigger problem for a larger percentage of men.

It's very slight baggage. It is slightly different to be a childless divorced woman than a never married woman with failed relationships.
 

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For me most of the thrill is in the hunt , the sex itself is usually less interesting for me

Getting her to that psychological point where she is naked or has gone and bought nice lingerie for me just to please me
is far more rewarding to me than simply throwing some money at her and using her as a sex toy

I do understand the cost / benefit analysis because modern women do have some ridiculous advantages in modern dating which is pushing more and more men to start viewing dating as a labour activity rather than one of leisure

I mean we are already pretty much in a "pay to play" dating economy with the amount of women using only fans and sugar daddies not to mention the cost swipe apps force onto males

How long all of this will last I don't know , as with everything its supply & demand and if the supply of women willing to do these types of things for money keeps increasing eventually it will outweigh the demand

We are in for a very very interesting few years in the dating market
 

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Getting her to that psychological point where she is naked or has gone and bought nice lingerie for me just to please me
is far more rewarding to me than simply throwing some money at her and using her as a sex toy
I agree, I just want to see if I can have sex with her haha
 

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That was posted in September 2013. Aaron Clarey has aged a lot since then. The lighting wasn't that good in the video either.

Aaron's video goes sideways around the 14 minute mark of a 19 minute video when he talks about online dating being an advantage in efficiency and effectiveness over the bars. They weren't in 2013 and aren't in 2023 either.

The early dating websites were created in the 1990s as a response to the bar scenes of the 1970s-1990s. Night game has always been a difficult path but it's gotten more difficult over time.

Most guys who go out to bars go home at the end of the night without any meaningful prospects, semi or fully intoxicated, and pissed off. It's not good.
Guys shouldn't be "pissed off" if they wind up going home alone. That kind of attitude is just the wrong one for game. A guy needs to accept he will mostly get rejections.
 
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