"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Why is the b1tch doing this?
- Thread starter Jariel
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
yunghova35
Don Juan
dearsappho
Senior Don Juan
Don Juanabbe
Master Don Juan
Ding!! Ding!! Ding!! Ding!! Ding!!
She's the immature one Jariel, not you.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
So, in your opinion, should I tell her straight that I want nothing to do with her and her games, or should I continue being aloof with her?
Royal Elite
Banned
First you need to ask yourself what you want.
1. If you still want her as a friend then be busy, but continue being polite.
2. If you dont want her around anymore then tell her straight up.
But no no one in here or in the world can tell you what you want. So the first thing you need to find out is what do you want, then make a plan of attack.
Blue Phoenix
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 23, 2004
- Messages
- 1,335
- Reaction score
- 27
Come on man, what's up with you?
You don't have to give explanations to anyone, don't say a word. She was supposed to be out of your life! What's happening?
You have spent a lot of time posting this and other threads here just because of this girl...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Does she deserve the respect?
Does she deserve to have you as a friend?
Probably not. Go about your business and that's that. Don't give her the time of day.
It's like a fish that you're trying to throw back, but it keeps slipping and falling back into your boat. If you leave it in the boat and ignore it, it'll die eventually. By that time, you've caught many others that..... taste nice? lol
DeathDealer
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Nov 3, 2004
- Messages
- 640
- Reaction score
- 0
BE A MAN.
Let me repeat them to you since my advice is THE BEST:
1. Kill your ex-girlfriend.
2. If option 1 might land you in jail, Ditch her completely. (Such as trying to ignore her, changing number, etc.)
3. If option 2 is unavailable because she is connected with your friends. Ditch any friends connected withher.
And now is the healing process.. the DJ bible will help you in that healing process, READ IT ENTIRELY and FOLLOW DEATH DEALER'S ADVICE LIKE THE GOD'S WORD.
my advice is dont play the indifferent stuff......either you are indifferent which you obviously aren't than don't play it! why should you?? that you can say you are a real man that doesn't give a fvck? that some guys in the internet can be proud of you that you are soooooo DJ??! just express your anger tell your friend that you think she is a fvcking b1tch and that you don't want to see her again, if you see her look at her like she is a 3rd class human being, if she is b1tching laugh at her fvckface, tell her to fvck off,etcetc............a bit more fun than _playing_ to be indifferent. you take everything way too serious who the fvck carez if you aren't the big great real indifferent dj man.....just do like you FEEL.....there is nothing wrong with showing that you are angry if someone is b1tching at you!
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Kaine
Senior Don Juan
Jariel judging by the recent spate of your posts, you really need to find your nutz again and work on your attitude.
Kaine
Give up... these CPT Sav-a-ho types are like chinese infantry. You shoot down the first wave, another just pops up. You will run out of ammo before these "young bastards" stop defending disrespectful behavior of women.
Dietzcoi
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
She is doing it because she is a hor and this is what hors do!!!! Secondly, she knows that it will "get" to you and hurt you and hors like to put salt in an open wound because this is what hors do!!!
What you should do is respect her like a hor and say to the guy she is flirting with "Yeah man, jump on that shyt - I had this hor - she is a easy lay and is a freak - but be careful during her HERPES outbreaks - don't touch it - it's contagious!!!
Dietzcoi - the young have been brainwashed and need guidance and correction!!! Dudes today are too sensitive and accomodating and don't want to hurt the feelings of hors!! HUH??? Hors have no feelings!!!
Say "No" to flirtatious ex-hos!!!
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
Confront her, maybe one on one and tell her what you think is going on and you aren't comfortable with it
Yes you're right that ignoring her isn't helping. She's still contacting me, one day being nice and friendly, then the next she's trying to get under my skin.
I've just decided to play her at her own games for now, encouraging her to meet other guys and to get it on with my friend. I remember doing this once when we were seeing each other and it sent her mad. I figure, at the worst, she'll get it on with someone else and leave me alone.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.