"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Why is the b1tch doing this?
- Thread starter Jariel
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
yunghova35
Don Juan
dearsappho
Senior Don Juan
Don Juanabbe
Master Don Juan
Ding!! Ding!! Ding!! Ding!! Ding!!
She's the immature one Jariel, not you.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
So, in your opinion, should I tell her straight that I want nothing to do with her and her games, or should I continue being aloof with her?
Royal Elite
Banned
First you need to ask yourself what you want.
1. If you still want her as a friend then be busy, but continue being polite.
2. If you dont want her around anymore then tell her straight up.
But no no one in here or in the world can tell you what you want. So the first thing you need to find out is what do you want, then make a plan of attack.
Blue Phoenix
Master Don Juan
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Come on man, what's up with you?
You don't have to give explanations to anyone, don't say a word. She was supposed to be out of your life! What's happening?
You have spent a lot of time posting this and other threads here just because of this girl...
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Does she deserve the respect?
Does she deserve to have you as a friend?
Probably not. Go about your business and that's that. Don't give her the time of day.
It's like a fish that you're trying to throw back, but it keeps slipping and falling back into your boat. If you leave it in the boat and ignore it, it'll die eventually. By that time, you've caught many others that..... taste nice? lol
DeathDealer
Master Don Juan
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BE A MAN.
Let me repeat them to you since my advice is THE BEST:
1. Kill your ex-girlfriend.
2. If option 1 might land you in jail, Ditch her completely. (Such as trying to ignore her, changing number, etc.)
3. If option 2 is unavailable because she is connected with your friends. Ditch any friends connected withher.
And now is the healing process.. the DJ bible will help you in that healing process, READ IT ENTIRELY and FOLLOW DEATH DEALER'S ADVICE LIKE THE GOD'S WORD.
my advice is dont play the indifferent stuff......either you are indifferent which you obviously aren't than don't play it! why should you?? that you can say you are a real man that doesn't give a fvck? that some guys in the internet can be proud of you that you are soooooo DJ??! just express your anger tell your friend that you think she is a fvcking b1tch and that you don't want to see her again, if you see her look at her like she is a 3rd class human being, if she is b1tching laugh at her fvckface, tell her to fvck off,etcetc............a bit more fun than _playing_ to be indifferent. you take everything way too serious who the fvck carez if you aren't the big great real indifferent dj man.....just do like you FEEL.....there is nothing wrong with showing that you are angry if someone is b1tching at you!
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Kaine
Senior Don Juan
Jariel judging by the recent spate of your posts, you really need to find your nutz again and work on your attitude.
Kaine
Give up... these CPT Sav-a-ho types are like chinese infantry. You shoot down the first wave, another just pops up. You will run out of ammo before these "young bastards" stop defending disrespectful behavior of women.
Dietzcoi
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
She is doing it because she is a hor and this is what hors do!!!! Secondly, she knows that it will "get" to you and hurt you and hors like to put salt in an open wound because this is what hors do!!!
What you should do is respect her like a hor and say to the guy she is flirting with "Yeah man, jump on that shyt - I had this hor - she is a easy lay and is a freak - but be careful during her HERPES outbreaks - don't touch it - it's contagious!!!
Dietzcoi - the young have been brainwashed and need guidance and correction!!! Dudes today are too sensitive and accomodating and don't want to hurt the feelings of hors!! HUH??? Hors have no feelings!!!
Say "No" to flirtatious ex-hos!!!
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
Confront her, maybe one on one and tell her what you think is going on and you aren't comfortable with it
Yes you're right that ignoring her isn't helping. She's still contacting me, one day being nice and friendly, then the next she's trying to get under my skin.
I've just decided to play her at her own games for now, encouraging her to meet other guys and to get it on with my friend. I remember doing this once when we were seeing each other and it sent her mad. I figure, at the worst, she'll get it on with someone else and leave me alone.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.