You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Personally I would tell my friend, "If she's there I'm not." But it sure does sound like she wants you back.Originally posted by Jariel
I would stay clear of her except that she's clinging to my best friend.
Ding!! Ding!! Ding!! Ding!! Ding!!Originally posted by Tha Realnezz
She's trynna to emasculate you,cut her off.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Either that or she likes knowing the fact that she has him wrapped around her little finger....or she atleast she wishes she does. If he just keeps ignoring her she'll realize her little game ain't workin.Originally posted by Albion4
Personally I would tell my friend, "If she's there I'm not." But it sure does sound like she wants you back.
-Al
First you need to ask yourself what you want.Originally posted by Jariel
Ok, so she just invited me to hang out (as part of a group) tomorrow. I told her I have plans and left it at that. I've just seen that she has since written me an email saying I'm not myself and asking me what's wrong. I think she may be ego tripping that she has fazed me.
So, in your opinion, should I tell her straight that I want nothing to do with her and her games, or should I continue being aloof with her?
Come on man, what's up with you?Originally posted by Jariel
Ok, so she just invited me to hang out (as part of a group) tomorrow. I told her I have plans and left it at that. I've just seen that she has since written me an email saying I'm not myself and asking me what's wrong. I think she may be ego tripping that she has fazed me.
So, in your opinion, should I tell her straight that I want nothing to do with her and her games, or should I continue being aloof with her?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She is doing it because she is a hor and this is what hors do!!!! Secondly, she knows that it will "get" to you and hurt you and hors like to put salt in an open wound because this is what hors do!!!Originally posted by Jariel
I could understand if I had hurt or dumped her, but she dumped me, so anyone know why she is pulling this sh1t and how to deal with it?
Yes you're right that ignoring her isn't helping. She's still contacting me, one day being nice and friendly, then the next she's trying to get under my skin.Originally posted by Microphone Fiend
Am I the only one noticing ignoring the problem isn't making it go away?
Confront her, maybe one on one and tell her what you think is going on and you aren't comfortable with it
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.