"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why is she ignoring me after ons/first hook up

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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flowtheory

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Keep banging her obv..:
If it’s just sex... there’s sooooo many other options out there that can give that to you while not playing games with your time. You are what made the experience good for you by the sounds of it, she was just there and happened to have a good time because of what you did. Go experience something new.
 

sazc

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In her eyes your SMV is low.

Who knows what combination of LMS and or sexual prowess and or personality caused this.

Thing is, you shouldn't be investing all this worry and concern into a ONS.

I understand that your goal is to spin the type of plates that call you for hookups, instead of you calling them, but this chick ain't that girl.

Time to move on.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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machoMax

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In her eyes your SMV is low.

Who knows what combination of LMS and or sexual prowess and or personality caused this.

Thing is, you shouldn't be investing all this worry and concern into a ONS.

I understand that your goal is to spin the type of plates that call you for hookups, instead of you calling them, but this chick ain't that girl.

Time to move on.

I am Sharing your opinion 101%.
 
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