"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why is she ignoring me after ons/first hook up

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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flowtheory

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Keep banging her obv..:
If it’s just sex... there’s sooooo many other options out there that can give that to you while not playing games with your time. You are what made the experience good for you by the sounds of it, she was just there and happened to have a good time because of what you did. Go experience something new.
 

sazc

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In her eyes your SMV is low.

Who knows what combination of LMS and or sexual prowess and or personality caused this.

Thing is, you shouldn't be investing all this worry and concern into a ONS.

I understand that your goal is to spin the type of plates that call you for hookups, instead of you calling them, but this chick ain't that girl.

Time to move on.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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machoMax

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In her eyes your SMV is low.

Who knows what combination of LMS and or sexual prowess and or personality caused this.

Thing is, you shouldn't be investing all this worry and concern into a ONS.

I understand that your goal is to spin the type of plates that call you for hookups, instead of you calling them, but this chick ain't that girl.

Time to move on.

I am Sharing your opinion 101%.
 
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