"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Why is it so hard to get to believe in yourself???

Sapiens

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Why is it so hard to get people to believe in themselves? I can teach you how to do things but I can't teach you to believe you can do them??

How did you guys got to believe in your game?

Case in point, I took GrassHopper shopping, one girl that was shopping in the store turns to us and tells GrassHopper he looks "cute". He turns around and tells her. "No, I don't."

Girl turns red and turns away.....Damn!!!

-Sapiens
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Gonzalo

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Some things you can't teach people. Hopefully your friend will wake up one night at 4am as if coming out of a nightmare, and he'll say "oh, so THAT'S what I've been doing all wrong!".

Just point him in a good direction and he might learn, at least by osmosis.

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I hate to admit it, but I kept this girl friend around for a long time who would always beat me down with negative comments. I swear it's going to take a long time to get over the negativity she input into my subconscious! I'd say the women around us in our past go a ways to imparting such personal negativity.

On the opposite side, though, I've found associating bathroom visits with a good affirmation has helped a good bit. Still have quite a ways to go, of course.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Sapiens
How did you guys got to believe in your game?
I don't have game to believe in; I believe in my lifestyle.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I think are you asking how to motivate people. Changing your look on life has to been done from within...

So instead of trying to motivate then into being something different then they are I would suggest focusing on making them want to make change.
 
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