"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Why is it so hard to get to believe in yourself???

Sapiens

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Why is it so hard to get people to believe in themselves? I can teach you how to do things but I can't teach you to believe you can do them??

How did you guys got to believe in your game?

Case in point, I took GrassHopper shopping, one girl that was shopping in the store turns to us and tells GrassHopper he looks "cute". He turns around and tells her. "No, I don't."

Girl turns red and turns away.....Damn!!!

-Sapiens
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Gonzalo

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Some things you can't teach people. Hopefully your friend will wake up one night at 4am as if coming out of a nightmare, and he'll say "oh, so THAT'S what I've been doing all wrong!".

Just point him in a good direction and he might learn, at least by osmosis.

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I hate to admit it, but I kept this girl friend around for a long time who would always beat me down with negative comments. I swear it's going to take a long time to get over the negativity she input into my subconscious! I'd say the women around us in our past go a ways to imparting such personal negativity.

On the opposite side, though, I've found associating bathroom visits with a good affirmation has helped a good bit. Still have quite a ways to go, of course.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Sapiens
How did you guys got to believe in your game?
I don't have game to believe in; I believe in my lifestyle.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I think are you asking how to motivate people. Changing your look on life has to been done from within...

So instead of trying to motivate then into being something different then they are I would suggest focusing on making them want to make change.
 
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