"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why is it so hard to ask a girl out (and what the **** should I do about it)?

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If you want to understand your fear you could read:
http://www.eruditor.com/books/item/9780091907075.html.en

It says that you will always fear something, everybody does. But you can learn to control it. The things you fear is the things you've never done or only done a few times. That is, you will fear almost everything in life before you start doing it.

I have the same fear of (hot)women you do, and I'm going to do something about it. But it is (for me) too hard to just walk up to a 10 and start talking. That is why I want to start out slow. The first Exercise in the DON JUAN BOOT CAMP is to say hi or hello to strangers, and it goes from there.
I think that is an easy way to trick my mind in to not caring who I talk to.

Please read:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134874


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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Surely it isn't that hard to ask a hot babe out, just do it, if she rejects your offer, move on, don't even worry about it, keep sarging.
 
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Really good question man... as you know already, this is all in your head. The fear of failure and rejection is killing you, and more importantly, you're attaching a lot of ego value to this. That is, you've invested a lot into the idea of dating this girl, and so your ego has a lot riding on it. And the ego is very self-preserving.

The realization you must have and feel is that whatever happens with this girl, you're still ok. You're still the same guy, living the same life.

Does that make sense? No matter how many positive affirmations you make about how great you are, or how many negative fears you attempt to squash or confront, the real issue here is being comfortable with being who you are independent of whatever this girl (or any girl) says.

When you get to that point (and being rejected every now and then is an important part of getting there) you will know exactly what I'm talking about. Have faith in yourself to get there, and step out of the immediacy of your situation.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Been there done that. Yup. Yup.

Here is what you do, stop talking to yourself. You will NEVER, EVER approach a girl when you second guess yourself. Believe me, this is what I did all through HS and got ZERO gfs out of it...

Do what I do now, see girl, walk over to girl and say "Hi..."
 
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