"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Why is it so hard to ask a girl out (and what the **** should I do about it)?

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If you want to understand your fear you could read:
http://www.eruditor.com/books/item/9780091907075.html.en

It says that you will always fear something, everybody does. But you can learn to control it. The things you fear is the things you've never done or only done a few times. That is, you will fear almost everything in life before you start doing it.

I have the same fear of (hot)women you do, and I'm going to do something about it. But it is (for me) too hard to just walk up to a 10 and start talking. That is why I want to start out slow. The first Exercise in the DON JUAN BOOT CAMP is to say hi or hello to strangers, and it goes from there.
I think that is an easy way to trick my mind in to not caring who I talk to.

Please read:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134874


The Mayor
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Surely it isn't that hard to ask a hot babe out, just do it, if she rejects your offer, move on, don't even worry about it, keep sarging.
 
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Really good question man... as you know already, this is all in your head. The fear of failure and rejection is killing you, and more importantly, you're attaching a lot of ego value to this. That is, you've invested a lot into the idea of dating this girl, and so your ego has a lot riding on it. And the ego is very self-preserving.

The realization you must have and feel is that whatever happens with this girl, you're still ok. You're still the same guy, living the same life.

Does that make sense? No matter how many positive affirmations you make about how great you are, or how many negative fears you attempt to squash or confront, the real issue here is being comfortable with being who you are independent of whatever this girl (or any girl) says.

When you get to that point (and being rejected every now and then is an important part of getting there) you will know exactly what I'm talking about. Have faith in yourself to get there, and step out of the immediacy of your situation.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Been there done that. Yup. Yup.

Here is what you do, stop talking to yourself. You will NEVER, EVER approach a girl when you second guess yourself. Believe me, this is what I did all through HS and got ZERO gfs out of it...

Do what I do now, see girl, walk over to girl and say "Hi..."
 
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