Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That cannot be right. I've dated girls that are 5'4" 140 and I thought they could stand to lose a few more pounds.Jitterbug said:Even though the average weight of American women isn't very flattering (around 165 pounds, 5'4"), she still weighs way higher than the average. Medium my arse.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
:crackup:DJDamage said:even her name sounds fat.
That is freaking fat! American females are pigs. End of discussion. Intolerable, old, ugly, loud, sloppy, spoiled, crude pigs! Avoid them. Use those navy blue passports of yours. Once she steps foot in America she is ruined for life.The Inside Man said:yeah 5'5 200 does NOT sound like medium build to me. 5'5 130-140 sounds more like it.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Nicole Ritchie isn't even bones, she's just gristle...Blackmm said:That girl has a LOT of meat on her bones. Beyonce and J Lo have a LITTLE meat on their bones. Nicole Ritchie has NO meat on her bones.
LOOLOLOOOOLOOLOOLFrancisco d'Anconia said:Nicole Ritchie isn't even bones, she's just gristle...
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Dude, 5' 5 and 115 is fabulous, 140 would be OK, 200 is an extra person living in there somewhere.JackPrescott said:You guys are being very harsh on a woman with a little meat on her bones. ....
Yeah, but unfortunately, the average American woman (same with Australian women too, they're 2nd behind Americans) is very much overweight. That's why any slim chick has some serious attitude, even if she has a horse face.DoctorLW said:That cannot be right. I've dated girls that are 5'4" 140 and I thought they could stand to lose a few more pounds.