I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That cannot be right. I've dated girls that are 5'4" 140 and I thought they could stand to lose a few more pounds.Jitterbug said:Even though the average weight of American women isn't very flattering (around 165 pounds, 5'4"), she still weighs way higher than the average. Medium my arse.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
:crackup:DJDamage said:even her name sounds fat.
That is freaking fat! American females are pigs. End of discussion. Intolerable, old, ugly, loud, sloppy, spoiled, crude pigs! Avoid them. Use those navy blue passports of yours. Once she steps foot in America she is ruined for life.The Inside Man said:yeah 5'5 200 does NOT sound like medium build to me. 5'5 130-140 sounds more like it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Nicole Ritchie isn't even bones, she's just gristle...Blackmm said:That girl has a LOT of meat on her bones. Beyonce and J Lo have a LITTLE meat on their bones. Nicole Ritchie has NO meat on her bones.
LOOLOLOOOOLOOLOOLFrancisco d'Anconia said:Nicole Ritchie isn't even bones, she's just gristle...
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dude, 5' 5 and 115 is fabulous, 140 would be OK, 200 is an extra person living in there somewhere.JackPrescott said:You guys are being very harsh on a woman with a little meat on her bones. ....
Yeah, but unfortunately, the average American woman (same with Australian women too, they're 2nd behind Americans) is very much overweight. That's why any slim chick has some serious attitude, even if she has a horse face.DoctorLW said:That cannot be right. I've dated girls that are 5'4" 140 and I thought they could stand to lose a few more pounds.