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Why Has No One Come Up With A Strategy To Lay Girls From The Gym?

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I've seen a few guys get banned from the local gym for being creeps, they ruin it for the rest of us.

Op just go there to workout, once you get a good body and confidence go outside and approach women.
Stuff like this is an outlier but I've also seen this behavior at the gym. This is from like 2 to 3 years ago, there was a regular that would approach literally every attractive woman there. I've spoken to him before and he is a nice guy but he never showed any signs of respecting boundaries and was way too pushy. I remember this one particular time he approached this girl, I'm not sure if he had spoken to her before or not and it suggested they might have. Anyway, he was talking to her and she said "I can't hear you right now, I have my headphones in" and instead of backing off he just kept persisting. I remember a few weeks later seeing him try again with the same girl whilst she was in the middle of doing shoulder raises and she obviously ignored him and walked off when she was done. It was super cringey to watch and as you said it's men like that which ruin it for guys that are more normal I guess you could say.

I also remember another time when this same guy was talking to this woman there and he tried to hug her and she said something like "We can't hug, I barely even know you" lol.
 

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Gym is one place I don’t want any distractions. I don’t approach there. I’ve had a few experiences where girls initiated at the gym. I was not receptive. Maybe a lot of girls feel the same.
 

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Stuff like this is an outlier but I've also seen this behavior at the gym. This is from like 2 to 3 years ago, there was a regular that would approach literally every attractive woman there. I've spoken to him before and he is a nice guy but he never showed any signs of respecting boundaries and was way too pushy. I remember this one particular time he approached this girl, I'm not sure if he had spoken to her before or not and it suggested they might have. Anyway, he was talking to her and she said "I can't hear you right now, I have my headphones in" and instead of backing off he just kept persisting. I remember a few weeks later seeing him try again with the same girl whilst she was in the middle of doing shoulder raises and she obviously ignored him and walked off when she was done. It was super cringey to watch and as you said it's men like that which ruin it for guys that are more normal I guess you could say.

I also remember another time when this same guy was talking to this woman there and he tried to hug her and she said something like "We can't hug, I barely even know you" lol.
Behavior like this is part of the justification for going indirect in the gym, as well as the grocery store, mall, book store, or coffee shop. There are men who cross the line but there are also white knight employees who will confront men over minor things because occasionally there are major line crossers in approaching.

I agree the line crossers ruin it for the larger number of guys who will approach without crossing the line. With that said, over the years, I've seen fewer men approach at the gym and at the fitness classes than I would have thought. A lot of men just don't have what it takes to approach women in a non-bar venue when sober.

Few men approaching in fitness classes suprises me more than few men approaching on the regular gym floor. With fitness classes, men have a ratio advantage. Even with the ratio advantage, it's not all that easy because a lot of women aren't sociable at fitness classes. I've rarely seen women sociable with each other at fitness classes, either for platonic female friendship or lesbian pickup.
 

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Behavior like this is part of the justification for going indirect in the gym, as well as the grocery store, mall, book store, or coffee shop. There are men who cross the line but there are also white knight employees who will confront men over minor things because occasionally there are major line crossers in approaching.

I agree the line crossers ruin it for the larger number of guys who will approach without crossing the line. With that said, over the years, I've seen fewer men approach at the gym and at the fitness classes than I would have thought. A lot of men just don't have what it takes to approach women in a non-bar venue when sober.

Few men approaching in fitness classes suprises me more than few men approaching on the regular gym floor. With fitness classes, men have a ratio advantage. Even with the ratio advantage, it's not all that easy because a lot of women aren't sociable at fitness classes. I've rarely seen women sociable with each other at fitness classes, either for platonic female friendship or lesbian pickup.
Over time and with familiarity you will end up speaking with others in the classes.
 

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I dont believe in approaching women at the gym. You let them get familiar with you and start communication with you.

Going to the gym to close women? Is that what a gym is for?
 

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Gym is the one place I don’t want to interact with anyone. Sure. I admire cute girls working out. But. I won’t bother anyone and I don’t want to be bothered.
 

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Gym is the one place I don’t want to interact with anyone. Sure. I admire cute girls working out. But. I won’t bother anyone and I don’t want to be bothered.
Saw a very hot woman at the gym last night. In the 9/10 range. Not wearing a mask or earbuds. She was lean, muscular, and yet feminine. Made eye contact, stone face.
 

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Saw a very hot woman at the gym last night. In the 9/10 range. Not wearing a mask or earbuds. She was lean, muscular, and yet feminine. Made eye contact, stone face.
I, personally have never seen a guy hit on a girl at the gym. I’ve been approached a few times at the gym over the years. I wasn’t receptive.
 

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I, personally have never seen a guy hit on a girl at the gym. I’ve been approached a few times at the gym over the years. I wasn’t receptive.
I've seen less of it over the years than one would think. I've approached women at the gym and fitness classes (more often fitness classes) a lot over the years and have been surprised that not too many guys do it.

It's more difficult to do general gym floor approaches than fitness class approaches.

Another thing that reduces the amount of potential gym approaches is that the majority of people are in some sort of relationship at any given time. So the majority of people are not actively prospecting at any given time. However, there are enough single and unattached gym attendees that gym approaching should be more of a thing than I've observed it to be.
 

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For me, the gym is my sanctuary and I'm there for one, singular purpose. I get in, do my business, and get out. I don't want any distractions. I go to Planet Fitness because it's cheap, adequate, and there are no hot women there walking on the treadmill in full makeup and taking mirror selfies, whoring for validation. I don't want to see that sh!t.

The gym is my safe space. I don't want any awkwardness or anxiety-provoking interactions with anyone. I don't even want to run into buddies there and take my earbuds out and start chatting and alternating sets with them. I want to work out. It's my meditation. I won't **** where I eat.

I go on the assumption that a cute girl who is clearly there to work out, not get approached, doesn't want to be approached.
 

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I won't **** where I eat.
To some extent, we have to shiit where we eat, even in a big city. If you meet a woman at a grocery store, there's a chance you'll see that woman at the same grocery store in the future. Same with bars and other public places.

I had an unpleasant interaction with a woman from my gym and had to see her for an extended time at that gym, up until the pandemic started and my gym closed for nearly 3 months. My gym re-opened and I just started going at more non-traditional hours, while always wearing a mask at the gym. This stinks but YouTube home workouts were getting dissatisfying. I missed the free weights.

The best way to do gym game is to use a secondary gym for hitting on women while keeping your primary gym for you. Planet Fitness is an ok primary gym because no hot woman would ever go there. Hot women prefer more upscale gyms. My gym is more upscale, on par with an LA Fitness or Lifetime Athletic, though it is an independent.
 

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To some extent, we have to shiit where we eat, even in a big city. If you meet a woman at a grocery store, there's a chance you'll see that woman at the same grocery store in the future. Same with bars and other public places.

I had an unpleasant interaction with a woman from my gym and had to see her for an extended time at that gym, up until the pandemic started and my gym closed for nearly 3 months. My gym re-opened and I just started going at more non-traditional hours, while always wearing a mask at the gym. This stinks but YouTube home workouts were getting dissatisfying. I missed the free weights.

The best way to do gym game is to use a secondary gym for hitting on women while keeping your primary gym for you. Planet Fitness is an ok primary gym because no hot woman would ever go there. Hot women prefer more upscale gyms. My gym is more upscale, on par with an LA Fitness or Lifetime Athletic, though it is an independent.
For me, the gym is a place of meditation, self-focus, and self-improvement. It's where I go to feel good, and feel good about myself. So, I don't want to muddy those waters in any way. The gym, for me, is strictly me time.

Bars are a place I go to meet women, so approaching women at bars is natural. If I have a super awkward, anxiety-provoking encounter with an ex, or get shot down harshly in public, all I have to do is go to another bar. Where I live, there are 100+ bars in a square mile vicinity. No issue.

Maintaining an expensive gym membership at a posh smoothie-bar gym just to hit on women isn't something I'd consider. I also prefer not having hot women around when working out, because as I said, there's a large meditative aspect to exercise for me, and I don't want the distraction. There are times and places for gaming women, the gym isn't one of them. For me at least.
 

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Bars are a place I go to meet women, so approaching women at bars is natural. If I have a super awkward, anxiety-provoking encounter with an ex, or get shot down harshly in public, all I have to do is go to another bar. Where I live, there are 100+ bars in a square mile vicinity. No issue.
If you have a bad interaction with a woman at a bar, you're probably never going to see that person again. That's great. If you have a bad interaction with a woman at the grocery store, you probably won't need to find a new grocery store. If you have a bad interaction with a woman at your gym, that's going to cause problems. If it was a rejected approach, you're likely to see that person again. If it was an accepted approach but a bad first or second date, that's going to cause problems. If you get into some sort of extended relationship with a woman from your gym and it goes south, someone will be finding a new gym, and it's likely you.

That's why for so many years I supplemented my primary gym with secondary facilities. I stopped doing that, then had a lousy interaction at my gym and had to put up with that woman for a long while.
 
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I've seen less of it over the years than one would think. I've approached women at the gym and fitness classes (more often fitness classes) a lot over the years and have been surprised that not too many guys do it.

It's more difficult to do general gym floor approaches than fitness class approaches.

Another thing that reduces the amount of potential gym approaches is that the majority of people are in some sort of relationship at any given time. So the majority of people are not actively prospecting at any given time. However, there are enough single and unattached gym attendees that gym approaching should be more of a thing than I've observed it to be.
I agree that classes, rather than floor, might be promising.
 

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I agree that classes, rather than floor, might be promising.
Mostly any class is majority women. You eliminate the earbud problem. Over the past decade, I've done way more fitness class approaching than general gym floor approaching.

Even in classes over the years, I was quite surprised that so few guys were approaching. Whenever I went to classes and did approaches, I rarely saw other guys doing it.
 

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i recently went to the gym for the first time after almost 6 months and for the first time in my life i realized what an amazing venue for women the gym is.

There where super hot girls everywhere and they all had outfits that where tight and super revealing.

why has no one come up with a strategy to consistently sleep with girls from the gym?

I have read a lot of seduction material and I have never heard of any gurus who consistently gets most of his lays from the gym.

why is that?

Why as a community have we never invested the time to innovate a viable strategy to take girls home from the gym?

For the past few days i have searched on every seduction forum i can think off including joining this one entirely to look for anyone who might have found a reliable strategy for the gym but so far nothing.

The only strategy i have found so far is default strategy of wait for a clear ioi/sign of interest then go in with direct game (i thought you where cute and wanted to meet you) then number close and proceed as normal from there.

I'm sure this approach can work but i hate taking numbers or going on dates; im looking for a stra
i recently went to the gym for the first time after almost 6 months and for the first time in my life i realized what an amazing venue for women the gym is.

There where super hot girls everywhere and they all had outfits that where tight and super revealing.

why has no one come up with a strategy to consistently sleep with girls from the gym?

I have read a lot of seduction material and I have never heard of any gurus who consistently gets most of his lays from the gym.

why is that?

Why as a community have we never invested the time to innovate a viable strategy to take girls home from the gym?

For the past few days i have searched on every seduction forum i can think off including joining this one entirely to look for anyone who might have found a reliable strategy for the gym but so far nothing.

The only strategy i have found so far is default strategy of wait for a clear ioi/sign of interest then go in with direct game (i thought you where cute and wanted to meet you) then number close and proceed as normal from there.

I'm sure this approach can work but i hate taking numbers or going on dates; im looking for a strategy where you meet the girl at the gym and then take her home from the gym that same day. is there anyone in the community that has done this multiple times?

I'm also planning to start running experiments this week myself to create a strategy to pull this off.
Here’s a dirty little trick for you... find out the car of the chick you’re into (for now), then let her tire down tsssssss. As she is leaving the gym, pretend to be on your cell phone (Super creep!), then as she approaches car:

You: ‘Hey lady, I think you have a flat tire there’.

Her: ‘OMG! Oh noes However will I get home?’

You: ‘You have a spare? I’ll change it for you’

Her: ‘I don’t have a spare. Oh noes’

You: ‘How about I give you a ride home?’

**show her to your (hired-for-the-day) Lamborghini**
 
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i recently went to the gym for the first time after almost 6 months and for the first time in my life i realized what an amazing venue for women the gym is.

There where super hot girls everywhere and they all had outfits that where tight and super revealing.

why has no one come up with a strategy to consistently sleep with girls from the gym?

I have read a lot of seduction material and I have never heard of any gurus who consistently gets most of his lays from the gym.

why is that?

Why as a community have we never invested the time to innovate a viable strategy to take girls home from the gym?

For the past few days i have searched on every seduction forum i can think off including joining this one entirely to look for anyone who might have found a reliable strategy for the gym but so far nothing.

The only strategy i have found so far is default strategy of wait for a clear ioi/sign of interest then go in with direct game (i thought you where cute and wanted to meet you) then number close and proceed as normal from there.

I'm sure this approach can work but i hate taking numbers or going on dates; im looking for a strategy where you meet the girl at the gym and then take her home from the gym that same day. is there anyone in the community that has done this multiple times?

I'm also planning to start running experiments this week myself to create a strategy to pull this off.
When you're this thirsty for girls you see at the gym, and looking for a way to take them home asap. There is really no way off pulling it off when you're in that mentality. You want something from them, which completely eliminates any posibility of them wanting something from you.
 

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i recently went to the gym for the first time after almost 6 months and for the first time in my life i realized what an amazing venue for women the gym is.

There where super hot girls everywhere and they all had outfits that where tight and super revealing.

why has no one come up with a strategy to consistently sleep with girls from the gym?

I have read a lot of seduction material and I have never heard of any gurus who consistently gets most of his lays from the gym.

why is that?

Why as a community have we never invested the time to innovate a viable strategy to take girls home from the gym?

For the past few days i have searched on every seduction forum i can think off including joining this one entirely to look for anyone who might have found a reliable strategy for the gym but so far nothing.

The only strategy i have found so far is default strategy of wait for a clear ioi/sign of interest then go in with direct game (i thought you where cute and wanted to meet you) then number close and proceed as normal from there.

I'm sure this approach can work but i hate taking numbers or going on dates; im looking for a strategy where you meet the girl at the gym and then take her home from the gym that same day. is there anyone in the community that has done this multiple times?

I'm also planning to start running experiments this week myself to create a strategy to pull this off.
I have had a multiple lays with women from the gym even during covid. Hooked up with two workers from the gym (I do not and I repeat do not recommend!)
It is a little harder because there is a lot of competition. I go to a big commercial gym and the women are unreal and a dime a dozen. I find it easiest to approach in the gym actually. No pua bs, just laid back genuine, simple talk...if they aren’t “in love” or thier boyfriend isn’t with them it’s very easy if they find you attractive.
Step one: be in shape and good looking. (Haha)
step two: if they send you a choosing signal approach ASAP like you don’t give a sh!t who’s watching. (I’ve banged a few with literally no choosing signals at all but once I talk to them, reveal my face it’s almost always been a shoe in) (I also met this female two
Weeks ago at the gym, had a good conversation, she was complimenting me on my appearance, her body language showed attraction, she approached me! She started asking me the meaning of my tattoos, blah blah blah. I gave her my number and....she never texted me or called. It’s happens)
Step three: tell them you’d like to grab coffee or whatever you like to do and give her you number
If she texts/calls cool, if not, cool.
Just this last week I met this female with a literally hb10 body, pretty cute face, every dude in the gym just stares at her. I talk to her like Ive known her, was pretty forward, kinoed her (this may or may not work but for me it did this time) and now having coffee with her this week. Now we’ll see if she’s a flake or not. Point is there are some many ways to strike up a conversation with a female at the gym but choose wisely...you don’t want to be “that thirsty guy”
 

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maybe gym game is hard for YOU.

do not force your limitations on me.

also, several people keep mentioning this nonsense about earphones.

are you guys serious?

you think if a girl finds you attractive she is going to be mad that you came up to her?

what world are you guys living in?

I've had successful interactions with hot girls in much more complicated situations including on an airplane, at my doctors office, at the bank. I literally ****ed an investment banker back in November.

also, i went to get blood a few weeks ago and the Latina taking my blood got so aroused by me that she was literally rubbing her boobs against my arm as she took my blood.

i once had a girl i met on the train invite me to spend the day with her within 2 min of meeting even though she was on her way to meet a friend.

I'm not even going to mention the things i have done on tinder that worked.

im shocked that people on this forum could be this clueless.

if a girl finds you attractive and gets aroused by you then nothing else matters.

im mind blown that people on this forum think a girl that is attracted to you will care about some ****ing earbuds or a workout at the gym.
Finally. I’ve been searching for this comment. It’s simple ..some guys will just never understand. I’m the same way. It’s all about who you are as a person (being good looking definitely helps). Being bold, centered and having natural game opens doors like no other. I’ve f!ngered my optometrist during an exam, banged a teacher at my sons school(not the smartest move), banged friends at the same job and the list literally goes on and on. Now this is not to brag but the point is there are no limitations. Maybe for “you” but not “me” but the gym ..if one chooses...is an excellent, easy place to pick up women...just like everywhere else
 

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Because there can never be a 'strategy' or system. It's about attraction. The gym is no exception

So as in every other situation, you look for the girls who are giving you IOI's (they find you attractive/like how you look)
You then walk over, say hi, talk and flirt and escalate
 
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