backseatjuan
Banned
Why?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
What’s your definition of fat? Are you talking really fat or a woman who’s carrying some extra weight but still looks good?Why?
This is very true.. I have a colleges old friends of mine were into fatties.. I just don't understand why? I'm into a slender fair skin girl. Hope that wasn't weird af lol.If your a fit lean guy they might feel inadequate or insecure. Most fatter women i see are with chubby dudes or spare tire guys. But then again some guys are just into it not my thing though. Sometimes i wonder how some people wipe their own asses.
You weren't fat enought for them.Why?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
because they hate hot ladies. fat women often call hot women "bitches" and say theyre not like these trashy sluts and wont give sex easily because it would mean accepting the reality - that theyre exact same bitches like the hot ones, just that, very disgusting onesWhy?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Fat bro. Fat to down a 5 and bellow. Fcking whale.It depends on what your definition of fat is. There's Thick, Chubby, Fat and Obese. I knew some guys who were into chubby Women but they had shape to them. I myself prefer Thick Women, To some Men they may consider "fat".
Agree on that, what they crave the most is validation and to reject a guy is the biggest psychological pleasure a woman gets after all we dont have men leading women only to reject them while its the norm for average and average to ugly women.Fat women have more to “prove.” Due to their insecurity, fat women get more pleasure out of rejecting guys than hot chicks do. Then by rejecting guys* and mentally adding them to the “low-tier” pile, she can convince herself that she is at least middle-tier in SMV. It’s hamstering at its finest.
*Even if he is average/decent looking and thin (or with an otherwise healthy body weight), she will mentally assume he’s low-tier.
People do the same thing with money. Somebody making only $20k more than you will act all “superior” but someone making $1M+ more than you might be more down to earth.
Same with bullying in school. You’re more likely to be bullied by a normie than a Chad. A legit Chad has nothing to prove. He’s not insecure where he needs sadistic pleasure to make himself feel good or needs to put on a bad boy show to impress girls.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.