Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Read more...

Why don't you have kids?

sevbucmash

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 10, 2022
Messages
1,050
Reaction score
538
Age
42
Simple question really, if expanded she asking this, what is wrong with you, are you gay or something wrong with you?

How to answer it?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Manure Spherian

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 16, 2023
Messages
1,900
Reaction score
1,645
Age
48

SW15

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 31, 2020
Messages
15,423
Reaction score
12,523
How to answer it?
You answer by stating your reasons.
@Manure Spherian is correct in how you answer that question. This is a question that will rarely be asked. Childless women generally do not want to ask this question.

There are a lot of good answers to the question.

You can say that the timing wasn't correct in any of your previous relationships to take that step. You did not want to put a child in a bad position. You wanted to provide your future child with a healthy, loving, and stable environment with 2 parents in a healthy and loving marriage. Since that was not reality for you, you opted against having children in all previous relationships.
 

Black Widow Void

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 24, 2010
Messages
2,153
Reaction score
3,796
I wish that all questions were this easy. I've been asked this all my life.

Her; Why don't you have kids (ironically, this is usually asked by divorced women with children)

Me: I like the art of practicing for children, but only want the end result with a woman that appears capable of permanent marriage and proper motherhood.
 

Scaramouche

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 27, 2008
Messages
4,440
Reaction score
1,558
Age
82
Location
Australia
Hi Sevbucmash,
A Woman asking those sorts of intrusive questions is seeking the dominant role,by putting you in a defensive position she is really being adversarial,move on!...Should you wish to persevere you simply say "probably for the same reason you haven't got more!"
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

The Duke

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 4, 2008
Messages
6,548
Reaction score
11,523
The late 20's - early 30's single mom's I dated were notorious for asking this. I always said my ex-wife and I were together for a long time and busy with careers/hobbies so building a family took a back burner. But I spend lots of time with my niece and enjoy that.

If she has kids you can bet she wants to screen you to see if you enjoy kids as well.

Some may be looking to have a kid and only want to date guys that share that desire.

Just don't come across as some one who doesn't like kids. That's usually what she wants to know.

Once you get in your 40's most of them don't care and you won't hear that question come up as often assuming you are dating similar age women.
 

sevbucmash

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 10, 2022
Messages
1,050
Reaction score
538
Age
42
"Yes I'm gay. You think there's something wrong with that?" Let her qualify, not you.
Maybe? Let me know.

I have a small penis. Just when she looks down, start talking about different positions, reverse crab, or girl on bottom man on top.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Anom

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 16, 2023
Messages
44
Reaction score
9
Age
37
It's not something I'd write off completely, but I don't have the time and energy for all that. Lives can be busy enough without them.
 

Nitrozv20

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 16, 2023
Messages
55
Reaction score
49
Age
38
"The women i have been with turned out to not hold the same values, beliefs, morals, and goals as mine"
 
Top