"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Why don't you have kids?

sevbucmash

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Simple question really, if expanded she asking this, what is wrong with you, are you gay or something wrong with you?

How to answer it?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Manure Spherian

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How to answer it?
You answer by stating your reasons.
@Manure Spherian is correct in how you answer that question. This is a question that will rarely be asked. Childless women generally do not want to ask this question.

There are a lot of good answers to the question.

You can say that the timing wasn't correct in any of your previous relationships to take that step. You did not want to put a child in a bad position. You wanted to provide your future child with a healthy, loving, and stable environment with 2 parents in a healthy and loving marriage. Since that was not reality for you, you opted against having children in all previous relationships.
 

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I wish that all questions were this easy. I've been asked this all my life.

Her; Why don't you have kids (ironically, this is usually asked by divorced women with children)

Me: I like the art of practicing for children, but only want the end result with a woman that appears capable of permanent marriage and proper motherhood.
 

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Hi Sevbucmash,
A Woman asking those sorts of intrusive questions is seeking the dominant role,by putting you in a defensive position she is really being adversarial,move on!...Should you wish to persevere you simply say "probably for the same reason you haven't got more!"
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The late 20's - early 30's single mom's I dated were notorious for asking this. I always said my ex-wife and I were together for a long time and busy with careers/hobbies so building a family took a back burner. But I spend lots of time with my niece and enjoy that.

If she has kids you can bet she wants to screen you to see if you enjoy kids as well.

Some may be looking to have a kid and only want to date guys that share that desire.

Just don't come across as some one who doesn't like kids. That's usually what she wants to know.

Once you get in your 40's most of them don't care and you won't hear that question come up as often assuming you are dating similar age women.
 

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"Yes I'm gay. You think there's something wrong with that?" Let her qualify, not you.
Maybe? Let me know.

I have a small penis. Just when she looks down, start talking about different positions, reverse crab, or girl on bottom man on top.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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It's not something I'd write off completely, but I don't have the time and energy for all that. Lives can be busy enough without them.
 

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"The women i have been with turned out to not hold the same values, beliefs, morals, and goals as mine"
 
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