Why Don't You Have A Girlfriend?

[Being_the_Don]

Sooner or later this often comes up in a convo with a woman, usually after we've got some rapport going. It sometimes starts with a woman saying: "I bet your girlfriend.." and I might comeback with I'm not serious with anybody. So then the common response from women is: "Why don't you have a girlfriend?" Variations of it are: "Why aren't you serious with anybody?" or "If you like this girl would you ever get into an LTR?" sometimes I even get asked "Do you even want to get married?" If I just say "I'm looking for quality." or "The right woman hasn't come along yet." or "I haven't met anyone I find interesting enough for an LTR" it comes across like I'm too picky.

What are some of your comebacks when asked this question?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Turn it back on them.

"Why don't you have a boyfriend?"

Maybe, but their question could be loaded and they are really trying to find out something a bit more specific. I usually reply "I haven't really thought about it. Why do you ask?" She'll typically start giving you some background which will give you an opportunity to understand the nature of her question, qualify it (at her) and answer if appropriate.

 

[Stéphane]

It's a **** test either place our own hoop like: Why don't you have a boyfriend? or ignore it completely.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

It's a **** test either place our own hoop like: Why don't you have a boyfriend? or ignore it completely.

Sounds defensive.

 

[Stéphane]

it's only defensive if you have the wrong tonality, and body language.

 

[DonJuan11]

Sooner or later this often comes up in a convo with a woman, usually after we've got some rapport going. It sometimes starts with a woman saying: "I bet your girlfriend.." and I might comeback with I'm not serious with anybody. So then the common response from women is: "Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

Because I'm waiting for you to set me up with your hot friend.

 

[Shyyhs]

I choose not to.

 

[sav]

"havent met somebody i wanna settle down with yet" usually works for me

 

[Being_the_Don]

Because I'm waiting for you to set me up with your hot friend.

That's definitely golden.