"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Why Don't You Have A Girlfriend?

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Being_the_Don

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Sooner or later this often comes up in a convo with a woman, usually after we've got some rapport going. It sometimes starts with a woman saying: "I bet your girlfriend.." and I might comeback with I'm not serious with anybody. So then the common response from women is: "Why don't you have a girlfriend?" Variations of it are: "Why aren't you serious with anybody?" or "If you like this girl would you ever get into an LTR?" sometimes I even get asked "Do you even want to get married?" If I just say "I'm looking for quality." or "The right woman hasn't come along yet." or "I haven't met anyone I find interesting enough for an LTR" it comes across like I'm too picky.

What are some of your comebacks when asked this question?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Danger said:
Turn it back on them.

"Why don't you have a boyfriend?"
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Maybe, but their question could be loaded and they are really trying to find out something a bit more specific. I usually reply "I haven't really thought about it. Why do you ask?" She'll typically start giving you some background which will give you an opportunity to understand the nature of her question, qualify it (at her) and answer if appropriate.
 
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It's a **** test either place our own hoop like: Why don't you have a boyfriend? or ignore it completely.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Stéphane said:
It's a **** test either place our own hoop like: Why don't you have a boyfriend? or ignore it completely.
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Sounds defensive.
 
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it's only defensive if you have the wrong tonality, and body language.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Being_the_Don said:
Sooner or later this often comes up in a convo with a woman, usually after we've got some rapport going. It sometimes starts with a woman saying: "I bet your girlfriend.." and I might comeback with I'm not serious with anybody. So then the common response from women is: "Why don't you have a girlfriend?"
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Because I'm waiting for you to set me up with your hot friend.
 
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"havent met somebody i wanna settle down with yet" usually works for me
 
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