Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Why don't really friendly, attractive, and smart girls
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Iceberg
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Fixed your postJPlaya said:
Doctrine Dark
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Mike32ct
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Any decent looking female, even if she is SINGLE, is not necessarily celibate. She probably has some "secret lover" or ex or f*ck buddy stored in her phone. They exchanges text messages, and he probably comes over her place every so often. Girls hide their secret hookups from other guys. They want YOU to THINK they are all celibate and innocent. When asked about her "single status", she will say something likes "...she is just not that interested in having a boyfriend after breaking up with Steve six years ago." PLEASE DON'T be fooled by this dude.JPlaya said:
The funny thing is, the more friendly she is, the more likely she is to be taken. She might not be OFFICIALLY taken, i.e. has a boyfriend that is public knowledge, but if she's her happy cheerful self, she's getting laid somewhere somehow. It's all done under the radar.
I'm exaggerating slightly to make a point, but this is largely true.
I'll give you a real life example. I know this good looking, friendly, intelligent 21 y/o girl. She "broke up" with her boyfriend about a year ago. She is going to school full time. But she still goes over her ex's house once or twice a week "to study there because it's close to school." If anybody asked her, she doesn't have a boyfriend. She's not interested in dating until school is over.
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Why don't ugly fat people date or hook up with anyone?
The question I asked is wrong for the same reason as yours. You make several incorrect assumptions.
1. You assume that if hot girls were hooking up with people, that you'd be around to witness it. Let me ask you, do you tend to hook up in public, or to talk with many people about your hookups? Only desperate people seeking validation brag to anyone and everyone about their sexual exploits, and hot women generally don't seek that kind of validation.
2. You assume that you know a reasonable cross-section of the hot female population to make this observation. Let me ask you, do you have many or even a few hot female friends? If you do, then you should probably ask them about this.
3. You assume that just because hot women don't date or hook up with just any guy that they don't hook up or date at all. They have standards, but, as with most people, their standards can be met and are probably met far more often than you'd like to believe. It's a big world full of a lot of people and 75% of women by the age of 19 are no longer virgins.
They date, they hook up, and in fact they may have a lot more sex than you, but you shouldn't expect them to run and tell you about it. Real life is not a pornographic film with peep holes, orgies, and exhibitionists around every corner.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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They do, with me. Seriously, I'm with a girl right now that's just as you described. They're out there, you've just got to take the time to find them. Too me about 4 years to find one I liked and met my standards (so far).JPlaya said:
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Also they don´t need to have a fvck buddy, for many people sex is not an obsession.
Of course there´re some that are single but fvck other guys, ons etc.. But I know from experience what you are saying.
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Because you think you do. Take action.JPlaya said:
I've seen you start a lot of threads lately and read most of them. From what you say, you sound like you're working on yourself physically, though your "approach journal" is as empty as it could be. You're not going to "stop sucking" until you take action. These threads can't help you anymore.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Agreed. There are no 100 percent rules in the game. There probably are some good looking girls that are celibate at times and they don't care/mind. I just wanted the OP to not assume they're celibate. They're usually hooking up somehow, but not always.JdelaSilviera said:
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Also, smart chicks can see through KINO and your PUA in 50 milliseconds. Trying to Peacock with a smart girl is a good way to humiliate yourself when she sees through it.
Myrrdin
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Dude, what? KINO is THE ultimate weapon in MAN's arsenal. The power of touch is what sets you apart from her FRIENDS!leeraconteur said:
Peacocking can also be done with style. If you want to peacock and don't want to do it like Mystery then hit the gym. A bulked and ripped body is THE most effective way to peacock.
Keep reading before you give advice
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.